"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should I fight against this strong emotions and feelings I'm getting for someone?

Canadien

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So, as it goes, I've been on the DJ path for over a year now, and, I've been seeing this girl on and off for over a month now, and even if we meet just about once a week, and we both got a very busy schedule, somehow I'm starting to get strong feelings for this girl.

Its like, she's not the hottest, but she inspires me to be better, and drives me to get to the next level, she is very proactive, and new in town, and just last weekend I missed calling her on the plan we had made, and its still good, somehow I expect conflict and there is none..

So can it happen from both side? Can you build up genuine feelings for someone, without getting any game or trickery?

I want to open up but I fear all the things being said on this forum, and it breaks my heart to buildup this tension, where there should be none, so should I keep my DJ frame of mind, or is it ok to break the game plan for once and see where it leads to?

Can you allow your heart to be exposed wide open, when you just have this gut feeling that the other person likes you, is it better to be vulnerable or is it best to be on top of your game all the time?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marinetti

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there's this fear that so many guys have of their own emotions. it doesn't really make much sense to me.

the point of this stuff is to meet quality women, women who make us feel better about ourselves, and push us to higher values in life.

no woman is "perfect". It seems like a lot of guys (including some other dude that just posted on another thread) get so wrapped up in game that they miss the forest for the trees. they forget that the whole reason to start "gaming" is to meet better women.

a female friend of mine just talked to me about this actually, she had a bad breakup and fears a "relationship" but has been sleeping with another guy and both of them are developing feelings for each other.

that's a relationship.

so try to get away from all the stigma and garbage that goes with the status of "being in a relationship" if this girl makes you feel good, and you find yourself thinking about her more and more.... I think you should develop the situation.
 

potato

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Listen to your heart. It’s not always appropriate to game a girl. This whole DJ/pick-up artist stuff is way overblown. At least half of the women out there will reject you in short order if she senses that you are gaming her. Most women are a great deal more intelligent and interesting than many on these and other forums are ready to admit. Often it sounds more like the sour grapes of an unappealing man than insight into what women are really like.

Take the advice of a man who has never, ever had difficultly in attracting women. These feelings and emotions, the whole falling in love process is the real prize in getting women. Whenever I meet a woman, it’s the feeling that I get that determines everything. If I’m feeling it and she’s feeling it, it’s like the best high. The gaming stuff just isn’t needed.
 
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