Should I break up with my girlfriend..?

[Stryker]

Hey guys, been a long while since I've been on here. That's because for the past year I've been in a relationship, and for the most part it has been absolutely fantastic. However, I now find myself in a bit of an awkward position.

My girlfriend, like most girls I imagine, has gotten so comfortable in our relationship that she is starting to put on 'happy weight'. When we got together, she had an absolutely killer figure, but she has now gained a significant amount of weight (certainly no where near obese), and whilst acknowledging it, has failed to do anything about it. It's gotten to the point now where I feel uncomfortable during sex and I don't feel as though I'm attracted to her anymore.

My question to you guys is this; if you were in my position, would you cut the cord? I don't want to continue in a relationship I am no longer satisfied with, but at the same time losing weight isn't a particularly difficult task, and I feel that if she can get her act together and lose it, we might get back to how it was before.

 

[jimmy18]

Read this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=205269

 

[jimmy18]

She is:

1. Depressed

AND/OR

2. Not into you enough to want to please you (she has no fear of loss)

Either way eject, particularly as you are no longer attracted to her

 

[TheCWord]

Interesting situation, Stryker, cause it sounds like you genuinely like/love this girl - it's just that the physical attraction is starting to wane due to an issue that is fixable.

Either way eject, particularly as you are no longer attracted to her

See, I don't like this. You've been together a year and seem to care for this girl. The whole alpha dog/walk away all the time thing is okay for dating but guys on here are too trigger happy with it and don't consider that LTRs are a different beast -- this isn't just some plate, this is a GF you've invested time with.

One thing is for sure, you can't tell her to lose weight. I suspect other posters will tell you to do that cause it's alpha or some sh!t. She has already admitted to needing to lose weight, you calling her out on it is really going to crush her. You can encourage her to take action towards her weight loss without ever actually calling her out on it.

I Like two options here. One is the SoSuave/DJ playing games type approach, one is what someone in the real world might tell you to do. I think the latter should be tried first. So:

Plan A: Get into physical activity together. I had a friend who was in an LTR with a chubby girl, but he was kind of chubby himself. They started training for a 5k together and now regularly run in 5ks and half marathons together. The result is that both of them slimmed down incredibly. Seriously, an impressive transformation for them both. Was probably a fun thing to do as a couple too. So you say to homegirl, why don't we train for a marathon. Or just, I was thinking of getting into a running routine, maybe we can do it as a couple. Or you were thinking of getting a gym membership, picking up yoga, going on a diet. You get the idea. Find something to do as a couple and not only will she lose weight but you two will have a new thing to bond over.

Plan B: This is if she rebuffs Plan A. If every couples activity you suggest together is shot down. Okay, now she's just being lazy. This is when you can start flirting with other girls in front of her (which you should probably be doing anyway, quite frankly). Start meeting new women, text them - don't act on it, but start to engage with women you are more physically attracted to. She'll pick up on this. Hopefully she gets the cue and changes her mind about couples running/yoga/whatever. If not, you peace out.