Should I ask her to be my gf? Help please!

[ready123]

this is why guys have relationship probs

how much you really know about a girl after a week?

are you asking her because she's worthwhile? or because you think if you don't make her your gf you gonna lose her?

 

[ready123]

Yea man, its too bad theres retards giving other retards advice. Im just waiting for someone to justify a girl asking to be exclusive, yet its the mans job to propose. Seeing people who dont understand how this sh*t works makes me grateful for knowing all that i know.

yea that's what I mean when I say guys on this site take this prizing sht too far. they think, oh I gotta be alpha, I gotta be the prize to get girls, I can't do anything to lose value. and then they filter ALL their actions through this perspective oblivious to the fact it barely gets results. then they go, she wasn't interested, I guess I should next her

you're the guy, if you want something you're supposed to make it happen, not wait for the girl, she's not your fvckin mom. but you should also have a healthy enough reality to understand you barely know sht about a girl after a week

on that note, if it takes jumping the gun and getting into premature relationships with psycho chicks to teach you that, go for it

 

[DreamerBoy45]

You guys are right, I really don't know anything about her and im sure she has some significant flaws that im unaware of at this point. The thing is for the first time, I feel like I met someone who likes me for my personality. Believe it or not men, in the past, 4 years ago in my highschool days, I hooked up with some girls who played me as followed. I took them out maybe 3 or so times, things seem good and THEY ask me to be their bf, I say sure, we fool around for a couple weeks, I thought things were great, then they dump me and can't even tell me why. This could all be attributed to just dumb high school drama, or they just wanted me to bang them, but the pain of those failures and not knowing why still lingers. And one of those chicks broke up with me a week before prom, which I ended up not goin to.

More recently, like this year, I met some other chicks but I refused to tap it cuz one had an std and the other, well it never even came close to that.
So yeah I lack much experience in this game, but to be honest all I really want at this point is something that is gonna last more than a few weeks, like at least a few months. I'm sure I'm pissing the hell outta you big dons and players, but I really don't feel like one. I'm tryin to be a man about this and not get my hopes up, but my heart wants a companion in and outta the sack.

Again, I can't thank you gents enough for the responses, your comments have given me a ton to think over.

 

[Interceptor]

You dont ask.
You take action.
If you get the feeling she is dating or flirting other guys, when you're wanting to be exclusive with her, you need to speak up.

Its ok to want a GF.
It ok to want to be in a relationship.


It's ok to take it slow to see how her true character and personality really are.

But I dont think it is healthy to already want a relationship with some you just met and barely know really.


Keep in contact with her, and make sure you mention that you enjoyed the time together, and you would like to continue that.
Its ok to drive a couple of hours to see her, and find out if it's worth it.


Dont be afraid. Go out and explore. Find out firsthand.

Then show her with your actions that you really want to be with her and her alone.
I will say this, most women do NOT feel comfortable with ANY guy already making big overtures for exclusivity , especially in such a short period of time.
You need to acknowledge that theres a timing for everything.
And if you jump the gun, she will know how out of sync you are, and lose major attraction.

I do believe that if you were to ask her, she would turn you down.
And I also believe that if your actions are OVER romantic and pedastalizing her you will turn her off big time.
She will feel you are too desperate for female attention and intimacy.

Good luck.