How to find out if you are mindfvcking yourself and how to do something about it?
I suppose everybody knows the feeling of oneitis and the insecurities that come with it. It’s one of the most painful things and get you distracted from normal life and doing normal things.
The best solution to get over it is: GO DO SOMETHING! Hang out with friends, spin more plates or GFTOW. Easier said than done because the moment you start thinking: I should start doing something other than thinking you are already too late. You are in pain and you are trying to get over it. Why not try and AVOID getting into that situation at all?
Start recognizing the pattern of mindfvcking, find out what happens in your head!
Example:
You met a girl, starting to date, maybe ****ed her but you had a cool time.
The next day you call or text her and you don’t get a message back.
Of course you can go in the spinning plates thing, and you always should. But recognize what happens next.
Recognize thoughts like:
- Maybe I texted her too late/early
- Maybe I’m acting AFC
- Maybe she doesn’t like me anymore
- Maybe I did something wrong
- Maybe she is dating somebody else
You see? It’s all about the “maybe”! That makes you insecure and acting AFC.
To moment you start thinking about maybe’s you should immediately think: STOP!
Go rational!
- If she is doing something interesting, she doesn’t want to do it with you otherwise she would have let me know. No problem, you wouldn’t like it anyway.
- If you texted her too early/late and she doesn’t respond, it’s not a problem, if she likes you she would have responded and if she likes you she will contact you onother way. You did your best.
- If you have acted AFC there is nothing you can do against it because it has already happened, find out what you did wrong and change your game.
- If she doesn’t like you anymore then what’s the worth of her being in your life?
- If you did something wrong, ok don’t do it again, learn from it. There is nothing wrong about making mistakes as long as you learn from it.
- If she is dating somebody else and just using you for attention: SHE IS NOT WORTH YOU TIME!
So the moment you start thinking the “maybes” turn them to “ifs” immediately. That way you are setting your boundaries with the girl and if she does something you don’t like you know what to do. The maybe’s will only shred your mind and make you insecure and acting AFC.
So: Set your own boundaries and see if she fits in, if not: NEXT!
I suppose everybody knows the feeling of oneitis and the insecurities that come with it. It’s one of the most painful things and get you distracted from normal life and doing normal things.
The best solution to get over it is: GO DO SOMETHING! Hang out with friends, spin more plates or GFTOW. Easier said than done because the moment you start thinking: I should start doing something other than thinking you are already too late. You are in pain and you are trying to get over it. Why not try and AVOID getting into that situation at all?
Start recognizing the pattern of mindfvcking, find out what happens in your head!
Example:
You met a girl, starting to date, maybe ****ed her but you had a cool time.
The next day you call or text her and you don’t get a message back.
Of course you can go in the spinning plates thing, and you always should. But recognize what happens next.
Recognize thoughts like:
- Maybe I texted her too late/early
- Maybe I’m acting AFC
- Maybe she doesn’t like me anymore
- Maybe I did something wrong
- Maybe she is dating somebody else
You see? It’s all about the “maybe”! That makes you insecure and acting AFC.
To moment you start thinking about maybe’s you should immediately think: STOP!
Go rational!
- If she is doing something interesting, she doesn’t want to do it with you otherwise she would have let me know. No problem, you wouldn’t like it anyway.
- If you texted her too early/late and she doesn’t respond, it’s not a problem, if she likes you she would have responded and if she likes you she will contact you onother way. You did your best.
- If you have acted AFC there is nothing you can do against it because it has already happened, find out what you did wrong and change your game.
- If she doesn’t like you anymore then what’s the worth of her being in your life?
- If you did something wrong, ok don’t do it again, learn from it. There is nothing wrong about making mistakes as long as you learn from it.
- If she is dating somebody else and just using you for attention: SHE IS NOT WORTH YOU TIME!
So the moment you start thinking the “maybes” turn them to “ifs” immediately. That way you are setting your boundaries with the girl and if she does something you don’t like you know what to do. The maybe’s will only shred your mind and make you insecure and acting AFC.
So: Set your own boundaries and see if she fits in, if not: NEXT!
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