She's got a boyfriend, but shows mixed signals. Help?

[Okinawan_Guy]

So basically, this girl and I are both on a running team. We met through a mutual friend, and we're now closer to each other than with that friend. However, she was getting involved (definite relationship) with another guy right before she met me, which I didn't find out about until later.

We flirted, kino'd, really connected at races and practice. I didn't ever seek her out, she came to me, and I certainly didn't overload her with attention. The BF was barely even mentioned, but now she's putting it up on Facebook repeatedly, and today at school she walked up to me, holding his hand, to talk to me. I was casual, smiled at him, but kept the conversation between me and her.

So basically, I want to know if she's trying to say "Hey, I've got a BF, you should back off" to be nice, or if she's trying to use it to score jealousy points?

 

[Hidden-Hand]

Go for it, what do you have to lose?

But never fight for her (if her 'bf' tries anything)

 

[loveshogun]

Ahem...

Go for other women who aren't mired in ambiguous relationships.

In my opinion, she has a boyfriend she doesn't like that much if she's really flirty with you in front of him. That, or she's the female equivalent of an oblivious d*uche.

But don't let that get to your head.

I don't think you'd want the type of girl who is okay with being in a relationship with someone that she's not all that interested in. This is the calling card of the type of girl who always need to be in a relationship, regardless of how sh*tty it is - that's not loyalty, it's weakness, and we wouldn't accept that in our fellow men.

Really ask and be honest with yourself about whether you see this flaw in her. If you do, ask yourself if your really attracted to her because of anything more than sexual tension. This will sort out your feelings so that at least you have a direction.

Personally, after a while, I realized that every time I "like" or "connect" with a girl that I haven't really gotten to know, it's 75 percent sexual chemistry. This alone is not a reason to pursue someone, much less someone who is taken.

 

[Radharc]

So basically, I want to know if she's trying to say "Hey, I've got a BF, you should back off" to be nice, or if she's trying to use it to score jealousy points?

The answer to that particular question is probably: neither. This is not about you, not about the bf, is exclusively about her and her ego.

Her ego is the main character in this movie, both the bf and you are ancillary characters.

If she cared a lot about her bf she wouldnt have behaved the way she did with you.

Is she interested in you? Maybe, its likely, if you prove to be a better deal then her current bf. In her mind you might have a "prospect who might be worth something if he really comes trough" status.

But is it worth it? Unless your goal is to fvck her and dump her I wouldnt advise getting involved with a girl who does that to her bf. Shows lack of character, and you are more likely than not to find yourself on the wrong end of that stick in the future.

However, if what happened between you and her was roughly at the same time she was getting involved with her current bf, it could be as simple as you loosing a race at which you arrived late.

 

[J. Darko]

It's obvious that she is an attention *****.

 

[Nutz]

So basically, this girl and I are both on a running team. We met through a mutual friend, and we're now closer to each other than with that friend. However, she was getting involved (definite relationship) with another guy right before she met me, which I didn't find out about until later.

We flirted, kino'd, really connected at races and practice. I didn't ever seek her out, she came to me, and I certainly didn't overload her with attention. The BF was barely even mentioned, but now she's putting it up on Facebook repeatedly, and today at school she walked up to me, holding his hand, to talk to me. I was casual, smiled at him, but kept the conversation between me and her.

So basically, I want to know if she's trying to say "Hey, I've got a BF, you should back off" to be nice, or if she's trying to use it to score jealousy points?

Women branch swing. Get used to it.

Just remember that boyfriends are like goalies. Sure they can get in the way, but they don't always keep you from scoring.

 

[Thatsalotoffish]

Bang her ))

Keep doing what your doing and make sure to not act like you care bout the boyfriend, it was good you kept the convo between you guys and ignored the BF IMO

 

[maqnetik]

time to send her a clear message:

"youre either single or youre not b****"

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