"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My gf of 3 yrs left for an overseas working holiday about 8 months ago, since then we've kept in contact once or twice or week to maintain contact without forcing pressure on the situation. Which i was fine with, as Ive been using the time apart to remedy some aspects of my life and my relationship which i wasent happy with, ie neediness, supplicating etc etc.

Without sounding self-righteous i'm very happy with the progress ive made.

So for about a month now ive been seeing someone else, and kept it quiet from the one overseas as they know each other and there wasent much to tell anyway as we've only been hanging out and doing a few things together and havent had sex yet.

The one overseas found out a couple of days ago that ive been seeing someone else. She took the news better than I expected but is still upset.

It's obvious i still feel for the one overseas but I dont think I can be anything more than friends until shes shows me she want to be part of my life and not up off and leave again.
Hows the best way to convey that without adding pressure to the situation.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by nw1512
My gf of 3 yrs left for an overseas working holiday about 8 months ago, since then we've kept in contact once or twice or week to maintain contact without forcing pressure on the situation. Which i was fine with, as Ive been using the time apart to remedy some aspects of my life and my relationship which i wasent happy with, ie neediness, supplicating etc etc.

Without sounding self-righteous i'm very happy with the progress ive made.

So for about a month now ive been seeing someone else, and kept it quiet from the one overseas as they know each other and there wasent much to tell anyway as we've only been hanging out and doing a few things together and havent had sex yet.

The one overseas found out a couple of days ago that ive been seeing someone else. She took the news better than I expected but is still upset.

It's obvious i still feel for the one overseas but I dont think I can be anything more than friends until shes shows me she want to be part of my life and not up off and leave again.
Hows the best way to convey that without adding pressure to the situation.
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How about grabbing your balls and saying "I dont think we can be anything more then friends until you show me you want to be part of my life and not up off and leave again."

Homey you have the power of having someone else wanting you on your side. Never underestimate the power of jealousy, since she now has to acknowledge you as the catch that you are ya dig!!!!
 
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Thanks old mate just the "wakeup to yourself slap" i needed
 
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She took the news better than I expected but is still upset.
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She's cheated on you!!... Why wouldn't she... an aussie chick celebrate in a foreign country for 8 months???.... give her a break!!

You're her backup boy!!
 
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I never thought for a minute that she wouldnt get with other guys. Thats not the part thats bothering me.

But am i right in thinking that i she wants to ever be with me again after being away for 9 months, she has a ton of hoops to jump through.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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But am i right in thinking that i she wants to ever be with me again after being away for 9 months, she has a ton of hoops to jump through.
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Question... does she have much incentive to jump thru those hoops????..

I think if you weren't seeing anyone else, you'd hardly put up much resistance...
 
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