"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She wants to be your girlfriend after a few dates
- Thread starter decentguy
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It is a red flag if she doesn't seem to understand why you don't want her to be your g/f this early in your relationship and then holds it against you.
Igetit!
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Now if she wanted to be your girlfriend after having only only one date,and sleeping with you once,then that would be a red flag.
In my opinion,what she's doing is quite normal. If she continues to keep going out with you after the 2nd or third date,then obviously,she's attracted to you. She likes you,therefore,she wants to be in a relationship with you. What's so "red flag-ish" about that?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I can understand that girls with low self-esteem or who are desperate might agree to this because they'll want to prove themselves to "keep" you. But most good looking girls who have high enough self-esteem, maturity, desirable qualities and options won't agree to such a thing. They'll simply say something like "sorry I'm not into those games" and walk away and find a man who's fine with being in a monogamous relationship with them.
Is there anything inherently wrong with dating one girl at a time if there's a great connection? Not because you don't have options or are afraid of losing her, but simply because you chose to do so as a mater of practicality and lack of time to date multiple women?
If she's great, why not just date her? And if it doesn't work out, next her.
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