She told me she's pregnant. I'm ignoring her.

[Ranger]

^ The alpha male, ladies and gents.

Alpha is a stupid and ineffectual word.

 

[Ranger]

The lack of consistency is amazing.

I never used that word, you did:



I couldn't care less what you think is alpha to be quite honest. It's completely irrelevant. Have no idea why you keep bringing it up.

But as i say, pure idealism. No application. And willful ignorance towards what happens (or is happening) inset.

Well let’s move on then.

 

[Spaz]

I agree, alpha is a stupid term.

Must be a construct of some intellectuals...

There's only dominant or passive men. A man is inherently born into these traits, can't be made.

You can try but it's gonna make you miserable and come off as fake.

It would be best 2 recognise ur inherent trait and be effective in it.

 

[marvinlfloresq]

So a few weeks ago she told me that she was worried that she was pregnant, but she didn't think so. I asked her why and she said her body has just been feeling off lately and she's been nauseous. Around that time she said that wasn't sure if she wanted to stay with me or not. I asked her what she wanted, she stalled, so I broke it off. She sent me a message explaining that she was just scared and tried to push me away. I told her I would decide on what I wanted to do about our relationship. I told her I would call the next day but didn't. Then a few days later I told her the same thing and didn't call. I guess she finally got fed up so I told her I would definitely let her know on Monday if I still wanted to be with her or not. Well I didn't call on Monday. Tuesday night I sent her text saying I was sorry for not having texted her that day and that I would call her tomorrow after work. I go check on Instagram and she unfollowed me smh.

I sent her a message saying to scratch what I had just said. She put the nail in the coffin and she's childish. I said some other stuff but told her that I swear on everything I wont respond to any texts or phone calls so don't even try and then wished her good luck in life.

10 minutes later I get a text from her saying she was sorry and she took my silence as being done so she unfollowed me. Then I get another text saying she's just been freaked out because she's been worried that she's preggo and believing it was over, having to see me constantly on social media would just hurt so unfollowing me was self preservation. She apologized again. Called a few times. Sent another text saying she was sorry and she wasn't trying to be childish and I didn't understand her thought process-"to think things are over, to think you're pregrnant, and having a constant reminder would just hurt. Since I didn't hear from you I took that as as I sign that I needed to move on." She said she had tried to hint as this to me weeks ago but because we weren't talking it didn't seem like an appropriate time to bring it up and it would've looked weird if she had. Then she said that her friend had been pushing her to get a test done and then sent me a screenshot of her friend asking the day before if she got the test. She said how she's been freaked out that she thought she would have to go through the abortion alone and unfollowing me would make it easier if she didn't see me since she thought it was over. She kept texting begging me to just talk to her and she called a few more times. Her last messaged said please call me back talking about prengancy over text isn't appropriate. I never picked up or responded to her.

The next day she sends me a picture of the postive pregnancy test. She's holding the positive test in front of her toothbrush holder in her bathroom. She sent a message saying she had wanted to talk about it on Monday when I was supposed to call and said again how she wasn't being childish, and this (the pregancy) is the reason why she was freaked out. I didn't respond to her message. She sent me a DM but I never opened it. That was two days ago.

I'm not wrong here right?

Yes. On every level.

If you need time, just say "I need time". If she is preg. You need to at least know, IMO. Why leave it to chance? If she has it, then comes back 10 years later you have to pay big time. She can prove you ditch her by avoiding communication.

Nothing wrong with talking to her. If you wanna end it, ok just end it, but the preg. Wont go away. Best of luck.

 

[Ranger]

I agree, alpha is a stupid term.

Must be a construct of some intellectuals...

There's only dominant or passive men. A man is inherently born into these traits, can't be made.

You can try but it's gonna make you miserable and come off as fake.

It would be best 2 recognise ur inherent trait and be effective in it.

How would someone do this? I mean, I kinda figured out some things but it wasn’t like I did it alone. A lot of these guys helped. And I mean a lot of them. EspeciLly on the BPD thread.

 

[Spaz]

How would someone do this? I mean, I kinda figured out some things but it wasn’t like I did it alone. A lot of these guys helped. And I mean a lot of them. EspeciLly on the BPD thread.

The effectiveness or traits ?

 

[Ranger]

The effectiveness or traits ?

Being effective with what inherent traits you have.
Dominant vs passive

 

[Ranger]

All we hear about is being dominant.

 

[soulforge]

Yes. On every level.

If you need time, just say "I need time". If she is preg. You need to at least know, IMO. Why leave it to chance? If she has it, then comes back 10 years later you have to pay big time. She can prove you ditch her by avoiding communication.

Nothing wrong with talking to her. If you wanna end it, ok just end it, but the preg. Wont go away. Best of luck.

As I stated before.. OP is running away from the issue at hand.. He is scared.. However he was perfectly happy about dumping his jizz inside her!

This will just be another kid, raised by a single mother, who will grow up to either be a weak excuse of a man.. or will turn out to be a fukin criminal.

Hey OP.. Thanks for your contribution to society!

 

[Spaz]

Being effective with what inherent traits you have.
Dominant vs passive

I think a man can only be truly effective when he recognises his inherent traits.

Passive with average to high social skills = Expressive personality traits

Passive with average to low social skills = Intellectual personality

Dominant with average to high social skills = Motivator personality traits

Dominant with average to low social skills = Doer personality traits.

At the end spectrum of each personality trait is considered a genius level for that trait. Some r born directly a genius in that trait whilst some need to work really hard to reach it.

Humanity needs men in each trait functioning at his best, the motivator comes out with the ideas, the intellectual makes the formula/program/design, the doer makes it happen whilst the expressive entertain us all.

Each feeding off the other.

To make things work.

Now let's get to the dominant vs passive men, in terms of modern female - male relationship.

The passive men in general more often then not yields power to women. Bending his frame. Thinking to appease her.

A dominant man even when conditioned with feminine narratives will offer some resistance, harder to bend but does bend in the end. Therein lies the attraction of a more dominant man.

It's just the passive getting the boot earlier then the dominant.

But infuse both passive and dominants with masculine traits - to hold the power of their frame and not bend.

Women will want to feel safe. And she will feel safer with a man who doesn't bend his frame, who's willing to say no regardless of how she manipulates a situation.

That's the holding power of a man.

When a man bends and changes because he fears or feels intimidated by women then he makes her feel unsafe, subconsciously thinking you r not able to protect her.

A mere women can do this to you, just imagine if a stronger man comes and bullies her, you'll won't be able to stand up and defend her.

Looks, tactics, etc, is all just the pulling power but doesn't have the staying power.

Side note: I've collapsed this into point form, you'll need 2 use ur imagination to expand it. But feel free to ask.