she says i like getting a reaction out of you

[aix237]

what does it mean when a girl says i like to get a reaction out of you. this chick that i like just said this to me at my house. i usually come back with something sarcastic or say something along the lines that im better than them in some way. my ex use to say that sh1t to me too. never knew why though. this girl said something about the food i eat (chicken wow!) then i said atleast i eat healthy sarcastically. she has a comment everytime she comes over my house about something i eat. then she said its funny cause i get a reaction out of you cause you get defensive. i replied and said maybe im giving you a reaction cause i know you want one. guess this girl wants more attention or something from me which i do give currently but am going to start to take away.
i know i do sh1t to get a reaction out of someone if i like them.

 

[MattS]

Im kind of interested in knowing this too because I have had girls say this to me too. Does anyone know?

 

[Yahooey]

It is a call for attention if it is being done only for the reaction but it sounds like there is more than that here. The remark about you being defensive shows a play for dominance (Alpha) - a bully making fun of you. The best reaction is no reaction or agreeing to her comment in a humorous way (AMOG tactics).

 

[aix237]

i ask her to do things like hey can you get this for me or get me a drink in the fridge etc. and she does it. I think she thinks i feel like i feel that im the sh1t and she wants to poke at me to figure where i stand and find out where im vunerable. when she said the defensive part i said well maybe i say it cause i know you want me to say it. then she said umm it doesnt work like that i replied by saying i got five years (age) on you so......



its hard for me to talk sh1t to a girl who says sh1t like that. a guy runs his mouth its easy. regardless shes buggin me and im cutting her out for a couple of days or so and will not be around my house when she is around. i know she wants my attention i give to her so i will get a reaction out of her this time i guess.

 

[Mavrick]

If she's getting a reaction out of you, she's gaining control over your emotions.

It's sort of like when you drive down the road and you see a car riding your bumper. Then you press the gas pedal to go faster. Those people behind you just took control over you. Basically, it's like you allowed them to press your foot down and drive faster. In fact, what should have happened was you should have become unaffected by the tailgater because you don't allow people to take your content feelings away from you. No one can have that.

So, be unaffected and indifferent by this girl's button bushing tactics because you don't want anyone taking away your content and happy feelings and replacing them with reactive BS. Those content feelings are yours, and NO ONE can take them from you. When you do this, you gain respect, not only for yourself, but from other people as well.