She is being very misunderstanding.

[Yoko Kurama]

I will try to paraphrase this as best as I can.

Guys, I'll be honest. This is my first actual serious relationship. I have been with her for 1 1/2 months. I love her, she says she loves me. She has had some bad break-ups in the past, a guy that used her for sex, and another that almost got her pregnant. She has been friends with the sex user before she started the relationship, for 5 years. They went out, didn't work out. I have hung around with her and Mike(that is his name) before. Now I am texting her at work then she tells me she is driving around with Mike and two of his stoner friends. I told it wasn't right and unsafe what she was doing. She didn't listen one of the stoners told me through the phone, stfu. She did't defend me, I said I didn't like her being with her ex and two of his friends driving around. She is all like, "leik omg we used to alwayz do it, it is no big deal, trust me" I want to trust her... btw she called me "uptite" for watching out for her.

The only thing she has in her defense as far as her no cheating is I went out with her one time, when we were friends, this was two days before we started going out. She was with another guy, but it wasn't serious and he did drugs. We were at the movies i tried to put my arm around her and she said "nope" So I backed off, then i figured out later she did like, she just didn't want to cheat in any way shape or form. This surprised me

According to the first paragraph, and in reference to the second, what do you think I should do?

 

[Eugene123]

Stop trying to be the nice guy, convincing her verbally(logically) make her change.

& if she is into drugs etc... just find a different girl...

Date like 7 other girls and after you done dating them... you'll come back to this girl with a different point of view.


BTW what she says does'nt mean much.

A woman can say she loves her man, and still cheat on him.

 

[jeffthechef]

when people are stoned/drunk they'll do anything

i see pics of my friend on facebook of her with some stoned out dudes giving the ***** licking sign, middle finger, arms around each other, wasted on the couch in a hotel...i'm sure they're banging and she has so many "bf's"...more like her hoes....

i personally don't get involved with girls who drink/smoke

up to you though, but you can tell by the way he told you to stfu that he doesn't give a **** about any relationship you have with her whether friends or more....and she won't move on..so you should..there are many girls out there...most guys don't leave a certain girl no matter how much he should simply because he fears he won't find another or can't

 

[eaglez1177]

Get rid of this girl ASAP. Shes NOT worth it at all, and clearly she doesnt give a sh*t about your relationship or anything you say. Trust me, save yourself now before you wind up getting really hurt, cuz theres a really really good chance that shes already cheated on you and will continue to do so.

 

[intrextrovert]

Just so you guys know, weed doesn't lower inhibitions or anything like that. Tho sometimes girls use it as an excuse for being slutty or w/e, like with alcohol.

It's probably fine, try not to worry too much, but most of all do not show her that you worry much/at all. If you really do care, tell her that the relationship isn't gonna work if she hangs around with her ex and his friends smoking.

 

[Scars]

Here's the magical word, NEXT.

It shouldn't bother you that she is with her ex. Girls can and will do what they want. They're going to flirt, talk to their exes, dance with other guys and so on.. You should just trust her. What I'm more worried about is the fact she didn't defend you. It seems like she has no respect for you at all if she won't even take into account how you felt about the whole situation. Next her and find a girl that actually listens and RESPECTS you.