"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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she invites you to go out with her and her friends...

Egyptiandude1

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Hey everybody, I have been trying to game this chick for a minute, she also works at my job and I had asked her out, come the day I speak to her and ask her if she wants to be picked up or meet me at our planned location, she says something along the lines of having to take a family member somewhere and I should have reminded her the day before yadda yadda, at this point I'm about to walk away and cut my losses when she asks me to go out with her and her friends on the weekend. She also wants to exchange numbers after work so we can call each other and set it up. My theory is that she's interested enough to go out with me, but not quite comfortable enough to go on her own, suggestions or insights?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Gangster Of Love

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What was the planned location?

If you planned to meet in public, then that's what should have happened. Tell her you should meet where you agreed to, and if she can't make it now, you can meet when she can actually do it.
 

Obsidian

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I had a really high IL girl invite me out with her friends on at least one occasion that I can remember. But it was after we'd already done stuff by ourselves 2-3 times.
 

Kev07

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It could be that she's just not comfortable enough to go out one on one.

But then again if you went out with her group of friends I doubt you're going to enjoy yourself much. But that's just me, I've been the only guy in a girl's night out before and it is no fun, I don't plan to do this again.
 

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My suggestion is do not date or become involved with girls at your job. Dude, do you seriously know what is going to happen WHEN things go south?

1) She will tell every girl there what a sorry POS you are
2) This will make it's way to your boss/supervisor/manager
3) Once your boss knows how unprofessional you are (by dating girls at work) you will be passed up on the next promotion
4) Even if you don't care about your job and things are great imagine the pleasure of being spied upon in and out of work
5) Other girls at your job will flirt with you, not because they like you hahaha, but to piss her off. This will lead to drama at work! You will hear about this at home too bro

Been there, done it. Never again. Get her number & when you leave this job call her. Explain you had a bad experience with dating/partying girls at work.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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