"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She Has To Move Out! Never Again!

RacerEx

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I'm a 52 yo divorcee who is financially secure, fit, and a little too complacent when dealing with potential LTR girls. I had one move in six months ago after a protracted break-up with a no-kidding high-functioning BPD. I thought the protracted break-up had me in a reasonable position to make decent emotional decisions about a girlfriend, but no.

I came to this forum when researching BPD relationships and have learned quite a bit, and I'm paying the price for my recent ignorance (never mind a life of blue-pill bullsh!t).

My priorities are changing for the better. Me first. I've found that ladies twenty or more years younger than me are taking interest.

Now I'm going to go through a little pain, but I'm going to be smiling a whole lot more when this is over with.

My lesson learned is to never give anything - time, money, subsistence - in advance to a woman in hopes of a return. Focus on the what's going on today and plan for the next, but take your time and don't invest what you do not need to!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scaramouche

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Dear RacerX,
Just thank your lucky Stars you don't live in Australia...After six months she can get you jumping through hoops in the Family Law Court...cost you a Bomb!!!...But as the Feminist Panjandrum rolls on inexorably from strength to strength you can expect a similar situation in your State!
 

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Sounds like you live in a common-law jurisdiction. I'm on the beach in Florida. They're month-to-month tenants (at best). But that's not the point. I feel no different at 52 than I did at, say, 25. I took me too long to learn what I know now, and I love making up for lost time!
 

YawataNoKami

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RacerEx said:
Sounds like you live in a common-law jurisdiction. I'm on the beach in Florida. They're month-to-month tenants (at best). But that's not the point. I feel no different at 52 than I did at, say, 25. I took me too long to learn what I know now, and I love making up for lost time!
No common law in the state of Florida. Alimony/palimony is another story.
 
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RacerX,

I would stick to women at 35 or over given your age. Also I would have background checks to determine stability. You can search their blog or post history using google. If you know about them thru friends circles, that helps too.

Also I don't mind putting a voice activated recorder in a babes car for a week or so. It picks up a lot.

Do this especially after you have made the commitment to be exclusive. Let her know you know a lot of people and you cannot tolerate her trying to have another guy while she has you...

Best of Luck.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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