"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She had a dream about me?

wcknightjr

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Alright, last week i had a post about how to get better acquainted with my date before prom on June 5 (thanks for the advice on that, things are going pretty well). now something very interesting happened today. there's this other girl, we'll call her michelle, that i guess you could say i've had an innocent crush on since i met her in 9th grade (being the AFC i was i never acted on it, think back to the movie "Can't Hardly Wait" w/ Jennifer Love Hewitt). Now she has a boyfriend that i guess dumped her a couple weeks ago (i'm sorry but he has got to be one of the biggest a$$holes i've ever met ... known him forever) and she still asked him to prom and wonders why he's thinking of cancelling on her. Im cool with her, but i don't think im in LJBF zone, especially now..

Back to the interesting part:
Michelle comes up to me this morning and this is the convo...
Her: Hey, I had a really wierd dream about you last night.
Me [surprised]: What? What was it about?
Her: I dunno, it was just wierd.
Me: okaaaaaay...
(An hour later after class)
Me: Basically, Michelle, you have to tell me what it was about since you brought it up (i knew she was hiding something)
Her: Okay, so this is what happened; we were working on that group project and after we were all done i decided to take you to Ariel's house (her exboyfriend...WTF?!). We were there for a little bit but he wasn't home (What were we doing there? She woudln't say). Then he came home and got all mad at me, then you got really mad at me (I'm not one to get very angry at anyone), because you know everyone has to be mad at me .
(As we go our seperate ways)
Her: And there's some other details, that i can't tell you about (Or something to that effect, but in any case, let your imagination wander...i did :) )

If my freud and jung knowledge is correct, they might say that because i have showed subtle interest in her in the past (at dances and such), that she subconciously thought she could use me to get back at her boyfriend...in his own house!)

I was going to ask this girl to prom first if she hadn't gone and tried to win back the guy who doesn't like her. Now i believe this girl has some unresolved issues, but i don't they are too bad, so what do you guys think of this girl, should i still go for the number and call her sometime this summer?

She's not as bad as i've described her. she's got a 4.5 GPA and comes from a good family. Any questions, need clarification, got advice/translation for this whack dream? Any help would be appreciated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Raven125

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To me it sounds like you were having sex at Ariel's house until he got home and yelled at you...

And then you got mad for some reason :).
 

wcknightjr

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hmmm

swweeeet, keep the observations coming

I think she's a virgin tho (religious motives; you remember highschool ;) ) Maybe subconiciously she wishes she weren't?
 

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people have dreams all the time about random stuff, she probably saw you that day or was thinking about her ex boyfriend or any countless number of things and that contributed to the dream, they dont always make sense so dont worry about it.
 

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very good point, i thought about that, but then the next thing that came to mind is, if it didn't mean anything, then why the hell did she tell me about it. it's not like we talk about everything to each other...this is how she initiated the convo the moment she saw me. hmmm...

Also, its unexpected occurance may be irrelevant, since it was important enough to her for her to want me to know about it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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First off, I personally don't think dreams are a big deal. Back in my AFC days, I would spend months upon months obsessed with a girl, but I rarely had dreams about her. My example doesn't prove anything, but even scientists and psychologists can't fully explain dreams, so I don't think that you or any of us could either.

Second, you might as well forget about this girl completely until she gets over her ex. It's just not worth your time to deal with that.
 

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blienk, i had a dream about this girl i was thinking of aproaching, and in the dream we were at school, and i approached her, and we started talking, which pissed me off, cause i didnt know what i said to get her talking to me, lol
 
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