"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She gets with another lad

PooMan

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Theres this gal i like, more than any of the other gals im currently intrested in. She knows im intrested in her and shes intrested in me back, but because we live quite far away nothing can happen untill we meet up, which hopefully happen in a couple of weeks!

Anyway she goes to this party last night, and her friend tells me this morning she got with this lad and she plans on going out with him again as a 4some with his friend and her friend who also got together at this party.

So how do you act when you talk to this girl again and she tells ya about this guy and what happend at the party!?

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should i just say something like "No offence but i really dont wanna know!"

or

"What you do with other guys doesnt bother me, i dont care and i dont wanna know, what you do with me does bother me and is definatly something i care about and wanna know about"
 

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Don't expect that you can be interested in multiple girls, while she remains yours and yours alone. :-/

I wouldn't worry about it yet - wait till you're in a relationship (if that ever happens) before brining up these issues. It just isn't fitting at the present time. :)
 

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the thing is, this had made me realise when i talk to her about gals flirting with me at college she probably doesnt wanna hear it!

so i dont think ill be doing that again, but what sort of things should i say to her if she mentions him, which she probably wil!

Im gonna have to ask what she got up2 and how the party was etc, so should i say "i dont wanna hear about him" or should i just act as tho im pleased for her like saying "oh right cool, fair play to ya etc"

btw i heard he was scottish, ginger and wore a kilt (it was a fancy dress party he went as donald duck in a kilt) while also going commando! haha!
 

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Let go of the mentality that you deserve her monogamy. :-/ You're not in a relationship. Just act as if the whole thing doesn't bother you in the slightest. She'll prolly be very anxious to tell you - or she'll be wondering why you havn't asked anything yet. Good... make her wonder... make her see you're nonchalant about the whole thing.

Now...

I would suggest you keep teasing this chick, even telling her about those college girls (read about stimulating that female jealousy.. it's somewhere in the bible), and yeah. If you're good enough, she'll throw aside the other dude - if you're not: learn from it and move on. :-(

And don't you dare try telling her your 'true' feelings, in hopes of making her abandon that Donald Duck Dude. :)

Edit: You wanted to know what to say? Uhh... well, didn't your mom ever warn you about being spoon fed by Don Juans? ;) Uhh... how about: "Hmm, so how was the party? I heard it was quite the show... some chick came there dressed like a total dork, accompanied by the funniest looking soft porn star ever: Donald Duck. Maaan... those kids., I wonder who they were." - Then after she admits it was her, tease her about banging Donald Duck... put on some duck sounds, pretend you're building up to orgasm as Donald Duck.

Ok ok... I overdone that... so what... That's all you're gonna get in a baby spoon.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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