She does nothing...

[RalphaWreck]

Been dating a girl on and off for this past year. We're talking last night and she mentions that she's having difficulty getting stuff done. I said well if you want to enjoy a life of mediocrity you better get started.

Her response was I would never want to be with someone I thought was mediocre. I said I didn't say that but if you want to look at it like that fine.

She'll do stuff for me but never for herself. But I'm interested in seeing her strive for what it is that is important to her. Also, I'm just tired of hearing her excuses and rationalizations of why something didn't happen. I've about had it. Pum pum good tho...

 

[OJN_98]

If she's always making up excuses for why she doesn't want to do better, then leave. Considering that you're into women who are ambitious for not only the people they provide for, but themselves as well.

If you think she'd be willing to throw it back for you after breaking it off, do that too (in reference to the good "pum pum"). But you said y'all have been off and on for the last year, its clear you like her enough to actually do this..have you actually made an attempt to help her or just giving her lectures?

 

[RalphaWreck]

I know exactly wear this relationship is headed. It takes so much indirect motivation to get her to do sonething. Well I've always set a good example. I work hard and I get stuff done that's important to me. With her an important deadline either gets rushed or is missed. I avoid the lectures. But when some "unlucky" shyt happens it's hard for me not to say I told you so.

 

[old_skoolr]

So treat her as a fvck buddy and see someone else. Not rocket science dude.

 

[wifehunter]