"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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she blew me off.... not in the good way

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So I went out with this girl. It went alright, I made sure I had fun. A day or two after the date I make sure to tell her I had a good time, she replies with a thank you and said the same.

I call her a few days later and leave a message for her to call me back. Two days later she leaves me a message saying she had "2 LONG" days. Obviously low interest, but I figure screw it and I email her to tell her I want to go bowling with her. She totally blows me off by not even responding to my message. I must point out that this is a girl I have meet on and off for a few months, so it is not like I am some random jag off she meet in a bar, there is a good chance we are going to see each other again.

I send her a message that said: "Too bad. I was looking forward to seeing if you were better at bowling or returning messages"

She replies within an hour (quickest response from her to date... lol) "yea I am bad at returning messages cant deny that. but I will be honest I just got recently done dating someone and that ended badly. I dont want to go bowling because I just don't want to date anyone right now. However, thanks for taking me out I did have fun."

I know this just means that she doesn't want to date ME right now. I replied with a "you're right, it is a busy week"

I am wondering do you guys think that if a girl blows you off like that it is too disrespectful to even try to initiate any contact in the future?
 

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Yup. Don't worry about contacting her. There will be plenty of others along the way.

Quick question, did you kiss her during the date?
 
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No I didn't kiss her and I imagine that was part of this. Cause I didn't really feel like it, she was kind of underwhelming.
 
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Lose her number. She made it clear where you both stand. Also, in a few days, when you see her with another guy, be cool about it. It shows class. lol.
 
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chieftan said:
I know this just means that she doesn't want to date ME right now. I replied with a "you're right, it is a busy week"

I am wondering do you guys think that if a girl blows you off like that it is too disrespectful to even try to initiate any contact in the future?
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1. Apply the 2 STRIKES RULE to your life
2. Stop trying to placate women and accepting their bad behavior. She didn't call you back after 2 days, gave you a bs excuse, and then you go an show sympathy/understanding FOR DISRESPECTING YOU by saying it was a busy week basically kinda kissing her ass a bit for leaving you hanging for 2 days. That is what a nice guy would do not a man that doesn't tolerate disrespect.

the moment she said she didn't want to date anyone right now was the moment you should have stopped communication with her, and not you pretending to feel sorry for her for having a busy week or whatever trying desperately to win her over. That is not going to win them over that is only going to make you seem like a nice guy to them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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f283000 said:
1. Apply the 2 STRIKES RULE to your life
2. Stop trying to placate women and accepting their bad behavior. She didn't call you back after 2 days, gave you a bs excuse, and then you go an show sympathy/understanding FOR DISRESPECTING YOU by saying it was a busy week basically kinda kissing her ass a bit for leaving you hanging for 2 days. That is what a nice guy would do not a man that doesn't tolerate disrespect.

the moment she said she didn't want to date anyone right now was the moment you should have stopped communication with her, and not you pretending to feel sorry for her for having a busy week or whatever trying desperately to win her over. That is not going to win them over that is only going to make you seem like a nice guy to them.
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This ^^.
Yes, stop trying to UNDERSTAND why woman behave poorly - the explanations do not matter. What disturbs me is that you are still focussed on a woman who is NOT focussed on you.
Only ever pursue women who show a high interest level in you though their actions.
 
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