this girl asked me to do something with her on friday night but then I told her I'm not sure if I have plans because my friends were doing something then she says "oh ok, you can just go out with them then." and I dunno if this was a shyt test or not but I wasn't really sure how to respond. what would be the ideal way to respond? I ended up saying that since she asked me first then I'll do something with her. Earlier in the night she told me that people should never ditch their friends to hang out with a girl/guy. because she hates the feeling. She said that when her friend met a guy, she kept going with him and never hung out with her friends and when the guy left, and she wanted to hang out with friends, it seemed like she was crawling back.
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she asks me to do something on friday night, but
- Thread starter baurman
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hoes before bros, man
seriously, though, you obviously lack social skills if you're compelled to make a post about this. You should've just said, "Oh, I'd really like to, but I think I've already got something going on this Friday. How is Saturday (or Thursday) for you?" That's the obvious response, and it would've taken about zero effort.
come on, man. get it together
seriously, though, you obviously lack social skills if you're compelled to make a post about this. You should've just said, "Oh, I'd really like to, but I think I've already got something going on this Friday. How is Saturday (or Thursday) for you?" That's the obvious response, and it would've taken about zero effort.
come on, man. get it together
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Exactly what Obisidan said above.
You should have told her you had plans, and immediately counter offer, which as we know, is the first thing a woman with high IL will do when you invite her to get together with you.
Don't go out with her on friday. There is a high chance something will "come up" with her and you will look like the biggest tool for having changed your plans for her.
You should have told her you had plans, and immediately counter offer, which as we know, is the first thing a woman with high IL will do when you invite her to get together with you.
Don't go out with her on friday. There is a high chance something will "come up" with her and you will look like the biggest tool for having changed your plans for her.
The only reason is that if she wanted to do something with me, I would want to do something with her. I would feel bad if I turn her down to go to a club with my friends because that's what she said that I would be doing things "21 and over" cause she's only 20. I don't mind spending time with her so that's why I told her that since she asked me first then We'll see. Thing is we're both busy as hell with work and stuff so I wanted to spend as much time as I can with her or else the next time I will will probably be the next week. But then again, spending TOO MUCH time with her would be a no-no, so I guess you're right. I've already spent sat, sun, monday with her. tuesday-friday I'll be swamped with work. thats why she asked me to do something friday night and thats when I told her I think my friends might be doing something but since you asked me first then ill consider.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Stop worrying too much about how she would feel about these things. She's a big girl, she'll be ok with you doing your thing. Don't turn into a girly man right before her very eyes.
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Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Why don't you have her come to the club with you? It's 18 to enter, right? The way I used to do it was the underage peeps would get drunk before we go, then at the club the 21+ people would get trashed, then by the time we were ready to go the underage people would be sober enough to drive everybody else back.
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