I'm currently with the same girl I have been with for the last 3 years. We are completely faithful and strongly attracted to each other. Lately I have been having very strong fantasies about her being with other men in all sorts of settings. At first these fantasies didn't bother me and I didn't give them much thought, but I'm seriously considering letting her know about them. The thing is, I'm almost certain that I/we would not be able to handle the emotional damage that would come from living out the fantasies because we both have the same strong beliefs about sex and social boundaries. I would not be able to accept it if she wanted me to sleep with other women, and I'm pretty sure she would feel the same way about her sleeping with other men.
I've gone through a million different scenarios in my head about bringing this topic up, and about going through with the fantasies... or progressing the sex towards that end. For example, I wondered about taking her out dancing and having her dance with a few guys and encouraging her to grind etc, and see if that leads anywhere. Or perhaps switching partners with another couple on the dance floor.
I am seriously infuriated with myself for considering those things, but the fantasies continue to get stronger and I don't know what to do about them. Has anyone experienced anything similar, and what were the consequences of your actions?
I've gone through a million different scenarios in my head about bringing this topic up, and about going through with the fantasies... or progressing the sex towards that end. For example, I wondered about taking her out dancing and having her dance with a few guys and encouraging her to grind etc, and see if that leads anywhere. Or perhaps switching partners with another couple on the dance floor.
I am seriously infuriated with myself for considering those things, but the fantasies continue to get stronger and I don't know what to do about them. Has anyone experienced anything similar, and what were the consequences of your actions?
