Sexual attraction different to relationship attraction

[Jariel]

I've always had this dilemma and have always wondered if others think alike.

Basically, the kind of women I am sexually attracted to aren't usually the type I want to date, whereas the girls I want to date, kiss, cuddle up to don't always do it for me in a sexual way. Rarely do I find a combination of both.

Personalities aside, I find myself sexually attracted to curvy, big breasted, round assed women. I also find older women very sexually attractive. Some of these women can get me so turned on and crazy, and yet I have no desire for them after sex. When these women are wanting to kiss, cuddle and date with me, I can't help backing off and wanting my space.

On the other hand, I prefer to date slim, generically attractive women with a look of feminine innocence about them. With such women, I enjoy walking with my arm around her, kissing, lying in bed spooning, dating and can even fall for them, and yet I don't find myself particularly turned on by them during sex.

I.e. my ideal women to fvck would be Christina Schmidt, yet my idea woman to date would be Giselle Bundchen or Mischa Barton.

I'm currently dating one of the latter types of women. She's beautiful, both in terms of looks and personality. She's great company, modest, affectionate and I like being close to her, but I'm lacking any real desire to fvck her.

It's not really a problem, I'm just opening up the topic for discussion and to see if you guys find the same thing.

 

[Viagra4Soul]

Yep, know what you mean. My recently broken up 7 year relationship was with a more rounded girl - DD natural tits, curvy arse and hips - a woman. Loved fvcking her, though she was absolutely sh*t in bed.

My new target is super slim, no muscle tone (she runs, no gym), B cup fake tits (nice handful), tiny waist, tight as a fish's a-hole -> but having trouble getting super hot about her right now, even though she's game for far more stuff than I've had in nearly a decade.

I guess we want to fvck our Rubenesque baby makers, and have the models on our arms socially?

 

[Fela Kuti]

Exactly my "problem." I tend to fall for those innocent faced girls, but I just can't imagine myself bedding them.

 

[Desdinova]

For me, I'm usually with one or the other. I have trouble finding myself sexually attracted to skinny bytches, but I hate having a tubby tugboat on my arm. I find that there are 'happy mediums' out there that drive me wild who have a gorgeous plump little ass, big boobs and small in the belly, but they seem to be a rarity. I'm now dating one and I'm happy as a pig in 5hit. Great ass to squeeze, nice tits to play with, and I'm not riding the waves of the ocean when I'm fvcking her.

 

[st_99]

Last girl that I "fell for" in a more loving type way, yeah, I wasn't impressed
when I fvcked her. It was just blah, I remember thinking to myself after I banged her , "huh, that was kind of average at best, but thats not what i'm going to focus on"

Another girl that I had no interest in a long term thing man, I did love banging her. Thats for sure.

So maybe you're on to something.

 

[BlackMack177]

I agree with you there. I too have thick chick cravings every now and then, but I would never want to actually deal with any of these girls after I got done plowing them. The same thing goes for butter faces. I don't even want to kiss these girls half the time. I just want them to pull down the pants, bang, and be out the door

I only wish it were that easy to get rid of chicks afterwards....

But usually I have the same sexual attraction for a chick I would wife up too. As far as GF material goes, I'm attracted to the more athletic of middle ground chicks (chicks with curves but aren't chunky). They also have to be gorgeous in my eyes.

Just different types of women for different occasions I guess. Maybe that's objectifying women, but who cares. I like what I like.

If she is not sexy, but I like her, then she is a friend