"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sex without condom....pregnancy worries...am I worrying for nothing?

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My girlfriend is on the pill and we normally use a condom during sex. Recently we've started to have sex without a condom, but use a sponge in it's place along with the pill. Additionally, we use the withdrawal method. I thought I'd be ok with it, but I find myself worrying about her becoming pregnant whereas she has no fears whatsoever. Should I be worried? Thanks.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I've been using the "pull out" method with mine for over half a year with no problems. She's on the pill as well... no sponge though. Birth Control is just as effective as condoms, the only difference is psychological. Pulling out before nutting only decreases any risk.
 

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i would say , you two are over doing it. the pill plus sponge plus withdrawl, thats way too much!!

concidering the pill is 97% effective, adding anything else is just paranoid.

you guys are more then safe.
 

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Eh... I haven't even been pulling out... not the smartest... She's on the pill, and that is the only barrier.
 

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Originally posted by Evangenlion
i would say , you two are over doing it. the pill plus sponge plus withdrawl, thats way too much!!

concidering the pill is 97% effective, adding anything else is just paranoid.

you guys are more then safe.
Among other pieces of helpful advice from Doctor Evangenlion:

  • Nearsightedness can be cured by staring directly into the sun for three hours straight.
  • Skydiving with a backup parachute is overkill. You don't even need one parachute. Just float down with an umbrella like Mary Poppins.
  • That tumor is nothing to worry about.
  • Seat-belts and air bags are for sissies.
  • There's nothing wrong with pouring lighter fluid on an open flame.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Evangenlion
i would say , you two are over doing it. the pill plus sponge plus withdrawl, thats way too much!!

concidering the pill is 97% effective, adding anything else is just paranoid.

you guys are more then safe.
it means that i'll have an average of just 3 babies every four months... nothing to worry about
 

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Originally posted by Jay-X
it means that i'll have an average of just 3 babies every four months... nothing to worry about

Whahahah! :D :crackup:
 

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As far as the pill is concerned, unless you personally shove it down her throat EVERY day, I wouldn't trust it 100%. I always, ALWAYS pull out no matter what, even if the girl is on Depoprovera. Overkill? Maybe...peace of mind? Damn straight.
 

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The pill is I think 99.99% effective when taken correctly. However, I personally don't know that I would trust a lot of girls to take it every time they need to. It not only needs to be taken every day, it should be taken at the same time of day every day.

Have her take that shot that is taken monthly I think. I believe it is Depoprovera, but I could be wrong. It's administered by a doctor, so you don't have to worry about her messing anything up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Evangenlion
concidering the pill is 97% effective, adding anything else is just paranoid.
But you may have to pay at least $100,000—say that with me, one hundred thousand dollars—if you get within that 3% ineffectiveness. That’s about $33,000 per percentage point!

Edit: It's up to 99.7% effective, but still, if a guy strikes out on luck it is one hefty price to pay.
 

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i thought they took the sponge off the market at least more than 5 years ago. it was on seinfield where they were making fun of elaine who wanted to make sure the guys she was going to sleep with were "sponge worthy" since that was the last case she could ever get again due to being off the market.


i also heard they are taking the depro shot off the market soon due to its side effects.
 

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my girlfriend tried the pill, but it made her period last until she stopped taking it, so she quit. we do it with both condom and pulling out, or if i want to go without the condom we do anal
 
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