Sex tease in LTR

[SoSuaveDJ123]

Me and my LTR are good in every way except for sex- we don't have as much sex as I would like. She tries to explain to me always some bull**** about how not everything has to be about sex and she doesn't wanna have sex/give me a BJ every time she sees me. Usually I laugh and agree and amplify.

Today she randomly sends me a convo her and her friend had in which the friend told her that "hugging and non sexual contact is essential in building a healthy long term relationship."

How do u deflect this **** test again? Agree and amplify again? Tell her "yes, that means no sex for you from now on?"

Obviously getting mad is out of the question, but I feel like she's pushing my buttons to see how far I will go without admitting that I NEED sexual gratification alot.

 

[5string]

It's obvious your needs are not being met. I suspect she is losing interest.

Maybe time to move on?

 

[SgtSplacker]

The way I see it is if she is going to be like that about it, then I can be the same way.

Maybe she'll start boring me to death talking about some girl crap, i'll just get up and walk away mid sentence. Say something like "I don't have the patience to listen to this right now it's frustrating me. Excuse me"

Maybe she'll ask me to go with her somewhere to keep her company, "Nah the guys are getting together to play Gears on XBOX tonight I really didn't want to miss it. Maybe next time"

Girls always bother when they are hungry, just say no and make yourself a PBJ real quick and be done with it...

You have no responsibility to care for her needs at all if she does not reciprocate. Hey I can make my life easier too ya know?

Point is, just because it's sex doesn't mean there does not exist the same obligation that you would have to consider her needs and desires. I'd pull back from the relationship and start seeing other people. When the "talk" happens just let her know that the relationship turned into something you didn't want. Don't even mention the sex, she'll figure it out. Stop spending money on her, no gifts only cards, no plans on weekends, cut that dry cooch off it's useless... if you couldn't get a hardon she would dump you right? If you were not making her happy she would leave right?

If I had a talk with a girl about this I would not even make it all about the sex because then it becomes your problem, in this context it's too easy for her to belittle your desires as being shallow or that you are trying to obligate her to have sex with you. I'd tell her it's all about my needs, that I want a normal relationship. I'd tell her that I was losing interest in her because I saw that she does not desire me as she did before. Don't talk about only sex, talk about the feelings and intentions behind her decisions and actions. That's the real root of HER problem...

Remember you are the one behaving normal here, she is the one pulling back or not contributing to your relationship like she did before. This is a problem she would have with any dude not only you. Talk about HER problem...

 

[Zion]

I assume you guys are young-ish. Somewhere around my age ?


I had this happen with my ex.She had this 'fear' that men only want sex , a relationship is more than just sex...all that. Which is fair to some extent ,but obviously she was taking it to an extreme. So with that mindset , the more you push , the more she will get into a defensive.


Don't think she doesn't want / like sex or that she's losing interest. That has nothing to do with it. It's just how some women think.


So say for example , if I say :


"When we get home I'll make you scream my name". She'd get all defensive about it like I was talking to a sex toy. Ok , fair enough. So what did I start doing ?

Shutting the **** up about it ,and just doing it.


Just start touching her. Don't talk about it,just do it. Want a bj ? Start turning her on and lead. You WILL get it.


Trust me she likes it and wants you to do lead.If you want it ,go for it. I had some of the most amazing sex with my girl that way.One time,for example, we were in the same fvcking bed with her 2 little cousins supposedly watching some cartoons together. One was 5 and the other about 9-ish. Dark room , spooning , lifted her skirt , you get the point.I also had to keep my hand over her mouth so she'd be quiet. I don't think she was ever more turned on than that day. And keep in mind this was a VERY conservative girl. She would NEVER ,not in a MILLION years go for something like this if I expressed it verbally. Literally never. I can only imagine the look on her face if I ever suggested something like that to her.


Lead. Don't ask permission to lead. Don't talk about leading. Just lead. If she follows , perfect. And she will,99% of the times. If she doesn't follow , just rape her.(Obviously don't be a fvcking idiot. Don't force anything on her.)