joseph_went_south
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One one of the forums recently, a young woman in a monogamous relationship with a boy is asking for help. She is trying to find ways to help her boyfriend put "less importance on sex within the relationship", or something like that. The guys mostly gave her good advice but unfortunately coming from a frame that coddles her Magic ***** Syndrome and ignores some important points about male-female sexuality.
I have had many women tell me they were not very orgasmic and that sex was "not so important", until they got with me, and then they were literally trying to pin me against the wall all the time. Even girls who have ordinary boyfriends right now, in fact. This is what it is often like for young women once they finally meet a man who can really turn them on sexually and deliver the goods.
In my opinion and in my experience, if the man wants sex much more than the woman does, the relationship will be doomed. The fact is that if a woman does not keep her man sexually satisfied and be thrilled to do it, then he will dump her like a hot piece of poop for the first woman who doesn't insist that the "relationship" is something superior to and separate from the sexual aspect. Most men live in frustration waiting for this elusive Madonna/***** combo meal to show up, because they don't realize that it is they who are failing to generate the attraction in the female.
It is also a fallacy to say that guys do not need an emotional connection to have sex. If they can they will have sex with "sluts" (a term a Gentleman of Leisure should never use) as some put it, because it is quick and easy validation for them. Typically, then, they will try to convince a sexual woman to embark on a serious relationship before she is ready, and then call her names behind her back when she doesn't want to. That is another reason why most women don't sleep with most men that are available to them, especially very sexual women. It is a myth that sexual women will "sleep with anyone". Most men are a sexual turnoff for the woman, because a sexual woman can smell neediness and male desperation for a relationship a mile away.
The sad irony is that men and women are constantly bombarded with messages saying that men just want sex and women just want an emotional connection. These messages are persistent propaganda coming through television, books, movies and popular music. Famous seducers like Casanova in the 1700s, or MrSex4uNYC in the early part of this century, would not be able to pick off "taken" women so easily if that were true. And ordinary men would not spend billions of dollars every year on pornography if that were true; they would be out there making connections with and having sex with real, live women. Most ordinary men are afraid of beautiful women and their sexuality, and these men tend to fall hard and want a relationship when and if they do "get lucky" with such a woman. Which is why beautiful women will usually avoid these in the first place, sending them scurrying home to their porn collection, safe within the confines of their Madonna/***** complex.
It is also a total myth that a woman can "get sex" any time she wants. There may be a lot of men capable of an erection but there certainly not a lot of men capable of arousing her sufficiently for sex to be enjoyable or even an option. I know a lot of women who can become extremely aroused and often have no reasonable options aside from power tools. Erroneous views like that are a direct cause of the Magic ***** Syndrome.
Talk to some women who really love sex. Talk to some "Freaks". The reality for a lot of people and a lot of couples is often quite far from the idealized version in society about what a romantic relationship should look like.
When a man has high enough value and has the tools to generate real, hot, sexual attraction, then sex becomes his reward to the woman. At that point you can throw all the notions about "getting lucky" or about the woman deciding to finally "give it up" straight into the toilet.
I have had many women tell me they were not very orgasmic and that sex was "not so important", until they got with me, and then they were literally trying to pin me against the wall all the time. Even girls who have ordinary boyfriends right now, in fact. This is what it is often like for young women once they finally meet a man who can really turn them on sexually and deliver the goods.
In my opinion and in my experience, if the man wants sex much more than the woman does, the relationship will be doomed. The fact is that if a woman does not keep her man sexually satisfied and be thrilled to do it, then he will dump her like a hot piece of poop for the first woman who doesn't insist that the "relationship" is something superior to and separate from the sexual aspect. Most men live in frustration waiting for this elusive Madonna/***** combo meal to show up, because they don't realize that it is they who are failing to generate the attraction in the female.
It is also a fallacy to say that guys do not need an emotional connection to have sex. If they can they will have sex with "sluts" (a term a Gentleman of Leisure should never use) as some put it, because it is quick and easy validation for them. Typically, then, they will try to convince a sexual woman to embark on a serious relationship before she is ready, and then call her names behind her back when she doesn't want to. That is another reason why most women don't sleep with most men that are available to them, especially very sexual women. It is a myth that sexual women will "sleep with anyone". Most men are a sexual turnoff for the woman, because a sexual woman can smell neediness and male desperation for a relationship a mile away.
The sad irony is that men and women are constantly bombarded with messages saying that men just want sex and women just want an emotional connection. These messages are persistent propaganda coming through television, books, movies and popular music. Famous seducers like Casanova in the 1700s, or MrSex4uNYC in the early part of this century, would not be able to pick off "taken" women so easily if that were true. And ordinary men would not spend billions of dollars every year on pornography if that were true; they would be out there making connections with and having sex with real, live women. Most ordinary men are afraid of beautiful women and their sexuality, and these men tend to fall hard and want a relationship when and if they do "get lucky" with such a woman. Which is why beautiful women will usually avoid these in the first place, sending them scurrying home to their porn collection, safe within the confines of their Madonna/***** complex.
It is also a total myth that a woman can "get sex" any time she wants. There may be a lot of men capable of an erection but there certainly not a lot of men capable of arousing her sufficiently for sex to be enjoyable or even an option. I know a lot of women who can become extremely aroused and often have no reasonable options aside from power tools. Erroneous views like that are a direct cause of the Magic ***** Syndrome.
Talk to some women who really love sex. Talk to some "Freaks". The reality for a lot of people and a lot of couples is often quite far from the idealized version in society about what a romantic relationship should look like.
When a man has high enough value and has the tools to generate real, hot, sexual attraction, then sex becomes his reward to the woman. At that point you can throw all the notions about "getting lucky" or about the woman deciding to finally "give it up" straight into the toilet.
