Selfish

[Epicurus]

I’m selfish. I only care about what I want. When I’m in bed, I care about being pleased. I care about getting my orgasm. About doing what I enjoy. How I enjoy it. I honestly could care less what some random hoe who will be replaced in two days thinks of me or what she finds enjoyable.

So why should you. Why do so many guys care about what makes the woman happy. What is fun for her. What she would enjoy etc

You’d find this extremely HARD to belive but PEOPLE IN GENERAL ARE EXTREMELY SELFISH. Learn to care about yourself way above anyone else unless they prove you otherwise


Now if you are in a stable or lasting relationship this does not apply. I just see too many people putting unnecessary effort into temporary individuals

 

[Serenity]

Learn to care about yourself way above anyone else unless they prove you otherwise

Nobody will prove you otherwise if everyone think the same way you do. If you meet a likeminded chick she'll just be selfish, you'll never know if she can care about you because she would expect you to care first. But you won't care first because you expect her to care first. So we'd end up with a world of selfish people expecting everyone else to care about others.

I am partly selfish, but I don't mind trying to care first just for the sake of checking if I get anything in return. Just in case I meet people like you who are too proud to go first. I'd prefer both interests to be taken care of, in the cases where that's not doable I choose myself though. I'm selfish of the better option of mutual satisfaction can't be achieved.

I'd ignore purely selfish people who only cares about themselves, they have zero value to me. I don't I'm the only one with that view, so good luck living life with your type of philosophy.

 

[Epicurus]

Nobody will prove you otherwise if everyone think the same way you do. If you meet a likeminded chick she'll just be selfish, you'll never know if she can care about you because she would expect you to care first. But you won't care first because you expect her to care first. So we'd end up with a world of selfish people expecting everyone else to care about others.

I am partly selfish, but I don't mind trying to care first just for the sake of checking if I get anything in return. Just in case I meet people like you who are too proud to go first. I'd prefer both interests to be taken care of, in the cases where that's not doable I choose myself though. I'm selfish of the better option of mutual satisfaction can't be achieved.

I'd ignore purely selfish people who only cares about themselves, they have zero value to me. I don't I'm the only one with that view, so good luck living life with your type of philosophy.

Reading comprehension is key. It’s clearly stated that this is purely for men looking for nothing else other than a sexual relationship with their women

 

[Serenity]

Reading comprehension is key. It’s clearly stated that this is purely for men looking for nothing else other than a sexual relationship with their women

I understood that, it doesn't change my position. A purely sexual relationship can also be mutually beneficial. Of course you can not give a single fvck how it is for her, but wouldn't your plates rotate fast? Wouldn't you have to constantly find new women to add to your rotation since few return for a second time, because you don't give a fvck about pleasuring them as well?

 

[Epicurus]

I understood that, it doesn't change my position. A purely sexual relationship can also be mutually beneficial. Of course you can not give a single fvck how it is for her, but wouldn't your plates rotate fast? Wouldn't you have to constantly find new women to add to your rotation since few return for a second time, because you don't give a fvck about pleasuring them as well?

There’s 7 billion people in the world half of which are women. Are we really worrying about scarcity? I could care less if I lose them all in one day. I also happen to live in Miami so there’s that

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nobody will prove you otherwise if everyone think the same way you do. If you meet a likeminded chick she'll just be selfish, you'll never know if she can care about you because she would expect you to care first. But you won't care first because you expect her to care first. So we'd end up with a world of selfish people expecting everyone else to care about others.

I am partly selfish, but I don't mind trying to care first just for the sake of checking if I get anything in return. Just in case I meet people like you who are too proud to go first. I'd prefer both interests to be taken care of, in the cases where that's not doable I choose myself though. I'm selfish of the better option of mutual satisfaction can't be achieved.

I'd ignore purely selfish people who only cares about themselves, they have zero value to me. I don't I'm the only one with that view, so good luck living life with your type of philosophy.

Yeah they are useless time wasters.

 

[ubercat]

Sorry I don't like the attitude. Of course if a person is toxic remove them from your life. But paying each other basic human respect is the glue that keeps Society together. It's only a series of steps from treating women as disposable Kleenex to running red lights and pulling a gun because somebody cut you off in traffic. Come back to us Elliott the world's not so bad

 

[Epicurus]

Sorry I don't like the attitude. Of course if a person is toxic remove them from your life. But paying each other basic human respect is the glue that keeps Society together. It's only a series of steps from treating women as disposable Kleenex to running red lights and pulling a gun because somebody cut you off in traffic. Come back to us Elliott the world's not so bad

Show me a point where I SAY I don’t treat these humans with respect or decency they deserve ass human beings. Do I care for her sexual satisfaction no. Do I care about her day? No.


Do I still give them the respect any human being deserves yes.

Never put words in my mouth

 

[TheProspect]

Show me a point where I SAY I don’t treat these humans with respect or decency they deserve ass human beings.

Do I still give them the respect any human being deserves yes.

Never put words in my mouth

You imply it.

I honestly could care less what some random hoe who will be replaced in two days thinks of me or what she finds enjoyable.

You are preemptively labeling every girl you sleep with as a replaceable, random hoe. While it be may true, it demonstrates a clear lack of respect, albeit not to their face (which you say you don’t do).

There is a difference between being “selfish” when putting you and your priorities first, and being selfish in the sense that the “end justifies the means” where you knowingly and unashamedly harm others in the pursuit of your own self-interests (I’m not suggesting you’re guilty of this btw). How you act and think comes back to you, so don’t be surprised when all you do find is “replaceable hoes”, which inevitably will reinforce your confirmation bias.

 

[guru1000]

1) Reciprocity: Your intent upon others will reflect in your sub-communications and attitude. They will reciprocate like upon you;

2) Value: A bit different then reciprocity. The value you give upon others, is, in most cases, the value they will return in like. Being selfish, and giving no value ensures you get no value in return. Selfishness gives you less return;

3) Vetting: If you are not selfish and giving, and the prospect does not give back, she disqualifies herself as anything other than a FB. Fantastic vetting mechanism to know who you are dealing with.

 

[Epicurus]

You imply it.



You are preemptively labeling every girl you sleep with as a replaceable, random hoe. While it be may true, it demonstrates a clear lack of respect, albeit not to their face (which you say you don’t do).

There is a difference between being “selfish” when putting you and your priorities first, and being selfish in the sense that the “end justifies the means” where you knowingly and unashamedly harm others in the pursuit of your own self-interests (I’m not suggesting you’re guilty of this btw). How you act and think comes back to you, so don’t be surprised when all you do find is “replaceable hoes”, which inevitably will reinforce your confirmation bias.

Your input is appreciated and I do take into consideration everything you’ve said. Thank you for taking time and replying to me but

The way I’m being analyzed over the basis of a few sentences on an online anonymous forum you’d think you’d all have degrees in psychology but you don’t. I on the other hand infact do have a masters of psychology under my belt.

But hey maybe you do know me

 

[TheProspect]

Your input is appreciated and I do take into consideration everything you’ve said. Thank you for taking time and replying to me but

The way I’m being analyzed over the basis of a few sentences on an online anonymous forum you’d think you’d all have degrees in psychology but you don’t. I on the other hand infact do have a masters of psychology under my belt.

But hey maybe you do know me

You sound like a sincere, humble, and happy guy.

 

[Epicurus]

You sound like a sincere, humble, and happy guy.

You probably thought my post had a sarcastic undertone. To which I assure you. It does not

 

[TheProspect]

You probably thought my post had a sarcastic undertone. To which I assure you. It does not

It’s hard to decipher the tone of a written message.

“But hey maybe you do know me”

^ But who would honestly interpret that as being sincere instead of sarcastic, given the context of the rest of that post.

You can apply meanings to your written words however you like, but you should take into consideration how the tone may be interpreted by your audience. I’m sure as a professor you already know that.

 

[ubercat]

Which is an interesting Point. I've never met anyone who is into psych or counseling who was well adjusted. Not saying this is always true but I've met quite a few and that's just my experience so far. I've sometimes wondered if they get into it to try and understand their own issues.

 

[Serenity]

There’s 7 billion people in the world half of which are women. Are we really worrying about scarcity? I could care less if I lose them all in one day. I also happen to live in Miami so there’s that

There's indeed 7 billion people in the world, half of which are men. So you're pretty much worthless and disposable then. If everyone adopted your way of thinking and became selfish, they wouldn't give a single fvck about you.

 

[Epicurus]

There's indeed 7 billion people in the world, half of which are men. So you're pretty much worthless and disposable then. If everyone adopted your way of thinking and became selfish, they wouldn't give a single fvck about you.

And I’m completely fine with that.

You’d be surprised as to how much people ACTUALLY do care about you. Despite what most say. Now this in no way means that there aren’t people who DO CARE about you. Because there are and they do exist. But humans tend to look at themselves as unique and special (every single one of us it’s normal). So I can’t blame such naivety when it comes to our nature as a species

 

[exhausted]

Good for you.

what's the point?

 

[Serenity]

And I’m completely fine with that.

Really? Most people aren't fine with that at all.

You’d be surprised as to how much people ACTUALLY do care about you. Despite what most say. Now this in no way means that there aren’t people who DO CARE about you. Because there are and they do exist.

I wouldn't be surprised, I know exactly how much or little every individual I'm in regular contact with cares about me.

But humans tend to look at themselves as unique and special (every single one of us it’s normal). So I can’t blame such naivety when it comes to our nature as a species

This is a funny one, but it is true that people generally overestimate themselves. But how we see ourselves is irrelevant if we're the only person in the world who think so. In reality it has zero legitimacy unless others agree. I don't give a sh!t how unique and special people think they are, because they aren't personally the judge of that for themselves. Failure to understand this is how hypocrites are made, they say X, Y and Z about themselves but their actions tell another story.