.illadelph
Don Juan
i'm new, but i've been browsing sosuave for some time. bear with
me, some of you might be the same exact way i am.
Okay, it's time. I've been on these forums long enough. Now it's
time for me to lend my own experiences, or lack thereof, and my
insights.. It's incredible how so many people are alike, in the
sense that they've never truly had a love life until 18, and dare
i say it, 40. I'm 18 right now, and i'm particularly happy that i
stumbled across sosuave. I'm asian, people tell me that i'm a
very attractive guy. i'm involved with sports, very athletic, i work out have a nice, cut body, and i dress in express/banana republic clothes...
love music, rollerblading, the beach and i'm an honor
student...all the things regular people like and do... sometimes
when i find out interests of the girl i like, and how compatible
we'd be, i'm like, "damn, i could've hadmy chance with her, if
only i would've said something." i have a lot of guy friends. it
out-weighs my female friends say...10:1...i know, i gotta step up,
big. i'm now a senior in highschool, the big time. i know that
this is the year. i always say that, but it's a must.
now or never, no regrets...there's a quote that really hit me hard
when i read it...it goes somethign like this..."you only failed if
your problem is the same you had last year" well, this has been
my case for quite some time now. it's on me to reverse that.
change my life around completely, not so much my life, but the way
i interact with other people. some people view me as an outgoing
kid, as i can be in certain environments. like sporting events,
or doing something i really excel at, or just having fun with
close friends. where i'm shy has been the classroom and social
gatherings, like parties or whatnot. i'd love to rid of my two
sides and combine the two. being shy has it's advantages, it's
sort of a gift and curse. it allows u to have better
understanding of things, and naturally be a better listener. i
know that not being shy out-weighs being shy by a landslide. i'll
always have certain characteristics to myself, but my goals
towards the opposite sex are to simply be able to first approach,
then open up, and proceed making more friends. i notice girls
noticing me all the time. i've never really had the confidence to
even say hi. i'd act like i would play it cool, but i played it
too cool that i blew it. throughtout my life it's been ups and
downs. yes i have female friends, but to an extent. sometimes,
don't u just wish u could build that list? have nearly as many
girl friends as guys..? i sure wish. there are many girls of
whom i know and i know they acknowledge me, i'm far from a loner,
but sometimes when i'm feeling low with low self-esteem, i can't
seem to boost myself back up unless i do something. something i
normally wouldn't do, i have to fake something in order to become
something i want. great, but it's hard for someone with this
shell surrounding them. some people label you stuck up or
arrogant, i'm sure many of you shy people know what i mean, but
when u get to know them, you're the msot friendly person....i
wanna talk some about my life now, i'd rather speak for the now,
because the past is gone, therefore it's not worth dwelling on it...
i just have to say that sosuave is a huge driving force behind my
confidence and how i portray myself to women. all the tips are
great, yeah. the dj bible is pretty damn good, and the tactics
work like butter. it's all a matter of executing them correctly
and applying them at the right times. you don't just read over
the articles and automatically think you're going to go all out
like a superior dj, like you say you would. it's a matter of
storing all of the **** up, like a massive rolodex, and spinning
out the "game" whenever needed. it's a great arsenal to have, but
it's all about trial and error. i've come to a realization that
sosuave is about trial and error. you try out these great tips,
like kino(probably the best tool you have, because once ur on
touching terms, you'll both feel more comfortable around each
other), eye contact, a great big smile. it's all about confidence
to be able to do all those things without the hinderence of other
peoples thoughts about you. thoughts....uuuhhhhhgggg....they could
very well lead to my demise, lol....thoughts are constantly
rushing through my head when i'm in situations i feel
uncomforatable..mostly i'm thinking what others are thinking of
me, but i KNOW that most other people are exacly like me thinking
of what others are thinking of them. i try to portray a relaxed
demeanor, and keep my head high. i'm great at faking confidence,
and people actually think i'm so ****y sometimes. i exude myself
by walking with a swagger, and normally i have charisma i never
knew i had. i would do all of these things and people would
notice me, but as time went on, u can't fake it forever. people
will notice something fishy, like there's 2 sides of u. sometimes
i'm on, sometimes i not. in the past few months, i've been
through some things. experience is the key. you have to get out
there..i mean ifyou can drive, leave the house...get off the damn
computer or your ass, watching tv or whatever and get out! go to
the mall, there are plenty of single chicks around, trust. i'm
18, and i just got my drivers license, yeah i waited it out..and
now that i can drive, i'll be experience a whoole ****load of
crap, other than having someone like my brother or parents take me
out. i'll be on my own. i find it easier to do things i normally
wouldn't when i'm by myself. lately i've been approaching people
i've seen around school, even if i never talked to them before,
but the more i do it, the easier it gets. i know it's not much,
but in the long-run it will have helped me significantly. it's a
long process, but i'll get there. i ahve the confidence now, to
know that i'll be alright. i'm slowly getting there, like the
turtle..i'll just be there a little late. shyness is a ***** and
it will most likely follow you wherever u go, unless you do
something. i feel i'll always have a little bit of it in me, but
don't most people? oh yeah...never take a simple exchange of
words heavily. example..u ever talk to a female who you thoguth
looked okay before, but once u guys hit it off somewhat, ur
insight changes totally? that's the problem with people with
little experience with females. we immediately put her on that
pedastal of which should never exist. i realize that and
immediately come back down to earth. that **** could mess you up,
too much mind tricks... but yeah, it's the little things count.
again, confidence will rid of your fears, first and foremost. i
realize that everytime i do something really small like just
saying "hi" to a female, it boosts my confidence to a whole nother
level. i mean to others, that's nothing, it's regular, ordinary
****, but to someone with insecurities constantly bugging them,
that **** really helps. it's the little things that will
ultimately cultivate into a beautiful thing, in the long run.
it's a test of endurance and will. you gotta be prepared for
those hurdles and detours, but eventually with the rights steps
taken, you'll make it out on top. with all these articles read, i realize that getting out there and exprience is the key, just approach and say "hi," the rest is up to you and your mass amount of knowledge here at sosuave..i love the article by photo where he's encouraging people to just approach the damn girl!!! no regrets, do it now or forever drown in your own misery.... .... ahh, that's enough...i know that talking with females raises
your worth immediately. others will notice and will want to be
around you because you're around such beautiful women. i'll
stick around these forums, and i hope i can continue to grow as a person..cause i know that's the
ultimate goal of sosuave, to help u realize your true potential and let it manifest with those you love.
thanks for your time.
sorry if this was too long, and seemingly a bunch of scattered
thoughts.....i just had to let things out...
i'll provide more to these forums from now on....
me, some of you might be the same exact way i am.
Okay, it's time. I've been on these forums long enough. Now it's
time for me to lend my own experiences, or lack thereof, and my
insights.. It's incredible how so many people are alike, in the
sense that they've never truly had a love life until 18, and dare
i say it, 40. I'm 18 right now, and i'm particularly happy that i
stumbled across sosuave. I'm asian, people tell me that i'm a
very attractive guy. i'm involved with sports, very athletic, i work out have a nice, cut body, and i dress in express/banana republic clothes...
love music, rollerblading, the beach and i'm an honor
student...all the things regular people like and do... sometimes
when i find out interests of the girl i like, and how compatible
we'd be, i'm like, "damn, i could've hadmy chance with her, if
only i would've said something." i have a lot of guy friends. it
out-weighs my female friends say...10:1...i know, i gotta step up,
big. i'm now a senior in highschool, the big time. i know that
this is the year. i always say that, but it's a must.
now or never, no regrets...there's a quote that really hit me hard
when i read it...it goes somethign like this..."you only failed if
your problem is the same you had last year" well, this has been
my case for quite some time now. it's on me to reverse that.
change my life around completely, not so much my life, but the way
i interact with other people. some people view me as an outgoing
kid, as i can be in certain environments. like sporting events,
or doing something i really excel at, or just having fun with
close friends. where i'm shy has been the classroom and social
gatherings, like parties or whatnot. i'd love to rid of my two
sides and combine the two. being shy has it's advantages, it's
sort of a gift and curse. it allows u to have better
understanding of things, and naturally be a better listener. i
know that not being shy out-weighs being shy by a landslide. i'll
always have certain characteristics to myself, but my goals
towards the opposite sex are to simply be able to first approach,
then open up, and proceed making more friends. i notice girls
noticing me all the time. i've never really had the confidence to
even say hi. i'd act like i would play it cool, but i played it
too cool that i blew it. throughtout my life it's been ups and
downs. yes i have female friends, but to an extent. sometimes,
don't u just wish u could build that list? have nearly as many
girl friends as guys..? i sure wish. there are many girls of
whom i know and i know they acknowledge me, i'm far from a loner,
but sometimes when i'm feeling low with low self-esteem, i can't
seem to boost myself back up unless i do something. something i
normally wouldn't do, i have to fake something in order to become
something i want. great, but it's hard for someone with this
shell surrounding them. some people label you stuck up or
arrogant, i'm sure many of you shy people know what i mean, but
when u get to know them, you're the msot friendly person....i
wanna talk some about my life now, i'd rather speak for the now,
because the past is gone, therefore it's not worth dwelling on it...
i just have to say that sosuave is a huge driving force behind my
confidence and how i portray myself to women. all the tips are
great, yeah. the dj bible is pretty damn good, and the tactics
work like butter. it's all a matter of executing them correctly
and applying them at the right times. you don't just read over
the articles and automatically think you're going to go all out
like a superior dj, like you say you would. it's a matter of
storing all of the **** up, like a massive rolodex, and spinning
out the "game" whenever needed. it's a great arsenal to have, but
it's all about trial and error. i've come to a realization that
sosuave is about trial and error. you try out these great tips,
like kino(probably the best tool you have, because once ur on
touching terms, you'll both feel more comfortable around each
other), eye contact, a great big smile. it's all about confidence
to be able to do all those things without the hinderence of other
peoples thoughts about you. thoughts....uuuhhhhhgggg....they could
very well lead to my demise, lol....thoughts are constantly
rushing through my head when i'm in situations i feel
uncomforatable..mostly i'm thinking what others are thinking of
me, but i KNOW that most other people are exacly like me thinking
of what others are thinking of them. i try to portray a relaxed
demeanor, and keep my head high. i'm great at faking confidence,
and people actually think i'm so ****y sometimes. i exude myself
by walking with a swagger, and normally i have charisma i never
knew i had. i would do all of these things and people would
notice me, but as time went on, u can't fake it forever. people
will notice something fishy, like there's 2 sides of u. sometimes
i'm on, sometimes i not. in the past few months, i've been
through some things. experience is the key. you have to get out
there..i mean ifyou can drive, leave the house...get off the damn
computer or your ass, watching tv or whatever and get out! go to
the mall, there are plenty of single chicks around, trust. i'm
18, and i just got my drivers license, yeah i waited it out..and
now that i can drive, i'll be experience a whoole ****load of
crap, other than having someone like my brother or parents take me
out. i'll be on my own. i find it easier to do things i normally
wouldn't when i'm by myself. lately i've been approaching people
i've seen around school, even if i never talked to them before,
but the more i do it, the easier it gets. i know it's not much,
but in the long-run it will have helped me significantly. it's a
long process, but i'll get there. i ahve the confidence now, to
know that i'll be alright. i'm slowly getting there, like the
turtle..i'll just be there a little late. shyness is a ***** and
it will most likely follow you wherever u go, unless you do
something. i feel i'll always have a little bit of it in me, but
don't most people? oh yeah...never take a simple exchange of
words heavily. example..u ever talk to a female who you thoguth
looked okay before, but once u guys hit it off somewhat, ur
insight changes totally? that's the problem with people with
little experience with females. we immediately put her on that
pedastal of which should never exist. i realize that and
immediately come back down to earth. that **** could mess you up,
too much mind tricks... but yeah, it's the little things count.
again, confidence will rid of your fears, first and foremost. i
realize that everytime i do something really small like just
saying "hi" to a female, it boosts my confidence to a whole nother
level. i mean to others, that's nothing, it's regular, ordinary
****, but to someone with insecurities constantly bugging them,
that **** really helps. it's the little things that will
ultimately cultivate into a beautiful thing, in the long run.
it's a test of endurance and will. you gotta be prepared for
those hurdles and detours, but eventually with the rights steps
taken, you'll make it out on top. with all these articles read, i realize that getting out there and exprience is the key, just approach and say "hi," the rest is up to you and your mass amount of knowledge here at sosuave..i love the article by photo where he's encouraging people to just approach the damn girl!!! no regrets, do it now or forever drown in your own misery.... .... ahh, that's enough...i know that talking with females raises
your worth immediately. others will notice and will want to be
around you because you're around such beautiful women. i'll
stick around these forums, and i hope i can continue to grow as a person..cause i know that's the
ultimate goal of sosuave, to help u realize your true potential and let it manifest with those you love.
thanks for your time.
sorry if this was too long, and seemingly a bunch of scattered
thoughts.....i just had to let things out...
i'll provide more to these forums from now on....
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