Self Improvement Ideas?

[phil2015]

Hi Gents

My first time on here, and first time I sort of need some advice. I wondered what any of you may /would do in my situation.

I'm after any advice regarding self improvement ideas, which may assist towards catching the eye of the ladies. I haven't taken any, per say yet, as I've have other things in life going on. I got divorced and split from my wife and mother of my children 3 years ago, and have been sorting things out from a first person perspective since, namely buying my own house, saving etc. Therefore the dating /going out schools of thought have taken a back burner.

In regards to altering myself personally, I don't really have a clue what to do. I have tried that pof in the last few months and most of yhe women seem very looks based, and seem to discard me as I look very young. I'm 30 years old and a beard does not suit me.

Feeling sort of lost/bewildered to be honest....wondered of anyone had any advice or ideas?

Phil

 

[TheSlasher]

Hi, phil2015,

It's a great thing to hear that the first thing you wanted to do right out of getting divorced is improving yourself. I respect your age, since I am younger. With that in mind, I recommend by starting reading the Book of Pook (it's a free PDF), and if you ask me, I still think that this is the best seduction book to date. The reason is because it does not teach one how to attract women, but how you'll live a fulfilling life. A true life changer.

Then try books like Rules of the Game (not The Game, this is a different title, and it is more of an action book rather than a story book) by Neil Strauss, The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, and Mastery and The 50th Law by Robert Greene. Stuff by David DeAngelo are also good as far as I can remember.

I'm actually cutting up the fat and saving the lean by skipping books that only discuss techniques, because after all of that and some practice talking to girls or something, you will still end up to those kind of readings with a similar theme to those above, and by that time, books that's all about seducing women and nothing about living your life's mission as a man will probably bore you.

Of course, reading books are nothing if you don't act upon your newly gained knowledge and insights.

 

[MOTU]

Phil, I got divorced 2yrs ago at 42. I was fat and unattractive at the time.

Hit the gym. Be committed to exercising five times a week: three days of cardio and two days of strength training.

Work on a skill. I have focused on improving my guitar playing. I actually met my current main plate at an acoustic open mic night I played.

Improve your environment. Keep your home or apartment clean. Wash and wax your vehicle no matter how old it is.

If you do these things you'll be amazed how much better you feel and how much more confidence you'll have.

Now meeting women and getting laid is like shooting fish in a barrel for me. I have lost 60lbs and have well defined muscles. My social skills are better and I am even more effective at my job.

Good luck!

 

[skinnyguy]

-get shredded
-make over 200k per year
-drive a sports car like a BMW 428i
-don't go to meetup events
-make new male and female friends-
-get off Facebook
-dress stylish
-join a charity
-drink less alcohol
-cook your own food

 

[mangotot]

Biggest thing you can do is make money. If you make $1 million a year you'll have top tier ***** swimming all over you. Chances are you don't even have to make much effort, they'll find you and do all the steps involved in pickup. And she'll be waiting for you in bed all ready....