Seein the ex

[werdmaster]

As i said awhile ago, my gf broke up with me over the summer.

Heres the tricky part, we go to the same school. How should I react to her when I see her?

I dont want to be her friend or fall even close to the friends zone, so a warm greeting is out.

And if I completely ignore her, itll be pretty obvious that Im doing it purposely. I need a way to keep things civil between us, mbe eventually get back with her.

So what a good way to talk/look at her?

 

[08aisaac]

Read the bible. I suggest Weapons of Mass Seduction By Senor Fingers.

He's the best.

 

[DJ4Real]

Me, personally, I'd forget about her and move on (depending on the reason we are broken up). Fortunately, there is a possible chance that you can hook back up with this girl. First of all, you have to stop sounding so needy. You sound like.... if you don't have this particular girl as a girlfriend again, your life will be doomed. Here is what I propose to you; I say make intial contact, be ****y and funny, be confident, but do not give her the jist of you trying to pursue her because that'll drive her away. What your going to have to do is get your own life that doesn't include much of her in it. At most, you should see your ex once or maybe even twice a month. Be sure that when you see her, be sure let her know that you have things going on in your life (good things) Also, be sure that the convo/meeting is quick (10 minutes max). Your going have to show this girl that maybe it was a mistake to break up with you. You'll have to spark that attraction in her again. I'm telling you right now, it won't be a walk in the park trying to do this.

Key things
. Have a life with-out her in it.
. Show her that you have a new life.
. Be a bit scarce (to create mystery)

 

[werdmaster]

Well I saw her at school and I was busy talkin to my friend, so I made like I saw her but was totally indifferent. My friend im'd me today and said that she blocked me on aimm and that she misses me.

How would I go about getting her back from here?

 

[DJ4Real]

Well, you have to continue letting her miss you for a little while, a week or so should be good. Then catch her by suprise and have a short convo about (your new life), be sure to ask her how her life is going as well. Like I said, this won't be a walk in the park.

Take note while your having your convo be funny and make her believe as if things are going pretty good for you...Also, if you meet any new women with in this week or so time period, be sure to let her know. Of course, don't flat out say "HEY I HAVE A NEW WOMAN"....be very subtle about it. Say something like "things are going pretty good with me, and there is this new girl that likes me, I might consider dating her"........after you tell her this, say to her " well, I need to go, I'm going to hang out with some friends, see you around " and then you leave.

I'm confident this will spark some of the emotions in her.

 

[Docs]

"things are going pretty good with me, and there is this new girl that likes me, I might consider dating her"

See below on how I handled a similar incident.

ahahha...i'm pissing off my ex because i'm not telling her what's happening in my life

ie:
- job
- the "girlfriend" she thinks I have (she took the "i'm seeing someone tonight" as that kinda thing, so it's her fault
- Only one class, so she'll never see me

She's just itching to drag me into a corner to explain myself, she im'ed me and asked what the hell was going on and I said that I was busy and all with personal things (totally true, noone needs to know about work, relationships, etc). She got mad i guess, ignored me and went offline. Oh well, I win round 2597 and that's all you need to say to get a girl really thinking.

*haha*