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Seasonal variance in online dating

Zarky

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Zarky said:
Online is generally bustlin' in early spring and late summer where I am.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1938751&postcount=6

Zarky said:
Seasons matter. Best times (in my area) are in late spring and late summer. Other times are really hit or miss, November through February is usually dead. Late summer is awesome for easy lays.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1889435&postcount=11

Zarky said:
I've found that the last really good time for dating for me was summer 2008 [...] 2009 and 2010 have only given me two new girls per year so far, not counting the mid- and long-term relps I'm in as well. I banged like 6 chicks in summer of 2008, it was a blast.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1710480&postcount=7


Looks like I was onto something... searches for porn, online dating and prostitution are seasonal:

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"[There is] a defined cycle featuring clear peaks and valleys -- recurring at discernible six-month intervals."

"Researchers determined search terms associated with a relatively purpose-driven category of sexytime -- prostitution and dating websites -- and found that, for those terms ... the six-month cycle showed up again."

http://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2012/07/on-the-internet-porn-has-seasons-too/260229/
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Read the whole article and look at the graphic. It shows clearly that the most interest in online dating (and porn) is "Winter and late summer," (or here in southern california, "early spring" and late summer) :D

You'll note that where I wax poetic about the summer of 2008 -- it's a big long positive hump in their graph. And where I complained about 2009 and early 2010 being slow for online dating... look at the line on their graph, it took a huge dump in that time period.

Pretty amazing. These are the kinds of things you see only when you've been doing something for a long-ass time. I've been doing online dating for 10 years. It always makes me chuckle when guys come here after doing it for a month and start posting their iron-clad rules about it.
 

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Hell, dude. I could have told you that.

Winter is when everyone's trying to find themselves a steady hook up. Because it's too damn cold to be out at bars and clubs every night, prowling for new booty.

Actually, it's funny that you're talking about this because this is a conversation I had with college friends in the pre-online dating era. We all noticed that people seemed to find a steady hook up right before the coldest days of winter.

It's funny stuff.
 

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Iceberg said:
I could have told you that.
Ah, but you didn't. I did. :D Don't piss on my self-congratulations.

Here's my most recent observation..

Online dating peaked early this summer. At this point only the dregs are left. Not as good a summer as 2008, but I still banged 5 new chicks this time so it wasn't as bad as 2009 and was a tiny bit better than last year (I sat out 2010 with a LTR who was the bomb in bed). I'm looking for 1 more before I wrap it up for the year and stick with a couple of new MLTRs.
 

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A girl I went out with a few times only has her profile up during the summer then she de activates it til next summer.

sure enough, she disappeared in september, then reappeared in june.
 
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