I read a few of these, and liked them (especially Duke's). I'm not sure how many are actually updated consistently anymore, but I'm gonna put my stories out here for all to see. I'm definitely a recovering AFC. Reading through a lot of the advice and all on here, I just kept shaking my head at how dumb I'd been up until a couple months ago. I had a horrible case of one-itis for what I've come to realize is about an HB5. I'd list off all of the embarassing things I did, but that'd be too long and it's the past now.
So now I'm making a few small strides, and my aim is to get to the level of several of the guys on this site that seem to have it down. In the meantime, I'll just ramble here. Just a quick note, I'm an undergrad right now due to working for a few years before going back to school. Otherwise it might be confusing to see a 24 yo guy talking about classes.
The current situation is I've got about 4 girls that are possibilities (well, I guess 3 now).
Went out last night for coffee with HBHispanic (7) who I met while she was waitressing. Cute girl, but unfortunately I'd done the LJBF'ing in about the first 15 minutes. I'm not sure what she was thinking, but she told me in those first few minutes that she doesn't like kids, can't cook, drinks alot, and she definitely swears alot. I'm sure these are things that I could've accepted after a while, but being hit with all of them right away made me think she was insecure and just kinda strange. Next.
Sunday I'll be going out with HBCheerful (6) for pretty much the same thing. I like not being too invested in an actual 'date' so that way if things get kinda weird (like with HBHispanic), I can just talk with her for a little bit and move on without wasting too much time or money. This girl is really energetic and smiling a lot, and I hope that's not just an act. Seems like whenever I meet ones like this, everything's great for a couple weeks and then all of the sudden they start asking me for advice on all of their problems and then don't understand why I become scarce all of the sudden.
Another one I'm working on is HBNavy (8). She's definitely a game player, and I learned that really early on. I got her number on a Monday, and she said she'd be busy during the week but would be free to talk on the weekend. That was fine with me because that was a busy week for me too. I called her Sunday night and got her voicemail. Called again Monday afternoon and got it again. I'm on AIM later that night and she starts talking with me and says something along the lines of she was sad that I didn't leave a message for her. I immediately said something like, "I know that game, why didn't you pick up?" To which she said she was in the library. She told me in ******** to try again after spring break. We'll see if I'm still even interested after spring break.
HBArtsy (7) is in my tech writing class. She sat down next to me about 3 weeks ago and I opened saying I hadn't ever seen her in class before. We talked a bit, and I walked with her almost to her apartment (close to the parking lots). The third time this happened, I asked her if she wanted to go grab some coffee. She said she had somewhere she had to be, but that she'd see me more in class and in group projects. I wasn't sure exactly how to read this since she had been under a lot of family pressure the week before, so I decided to let it cool off and after spring break I'll start over again.
As far as self improvement, I've been working quite a bit to become more outgoing. My success story from about a week ago was in a communications class. The TA was playing an elaborate game of telephone to test active listening where he told one girl a story (about a page long), who then told it to another girl, and that girl told it to another girl. The first girl messed up off the bat, so by the time it was over it was nowhere near correct. The TA asked if anyone thought they could do a better job, and I volunteered. Got up in front of everyone and recited the thing nearly verbatim. The TA was amazed as I'd apparently done it closer than anyone before. So I killed 3 birds with one stone. Got a little bit more outgoing, became the center of attention in a lab of 22 girls and 3 guys, and possibly impressed some girls as a 'good listener.' We'll see. I'm thinking of trying for a couple HB8's in that class.
My goals so far are to become more outgoing, initiate alot more cold approaches, and get into better shape. These have been goals for a while and I'm slowly making progress on them (down to about 15lbs overweight from 40, for example). I should be able to look back at this 6 months from now and see some huge steps. We'll see.
Anyway, that's my first entry. Feel free to comment or criticize.
So now I'm making a few small strides, and my aim is to get to the level of several of the guys on this site that seem to have it down. In the meantime, I'll just ramble here. Just a quick note, I'm an undergrad right now due to working for a few years before going back to school. Otherwise it might be confusing to see a 24 yo guy talking about classes.
The current situation is I've got about 4 girls that are possibilities (well, I guess 3 now).
Went out last night for coffee with HBHispanic (7) who I met while she was waitressing. Cute girl, but unfortunately I'd done the LJBF'ing in about the first 15 minutes. I'm not sure what she was thinking, but she told me in those first few minutes that she doesn't like kids, can't cook, drinks alot, and she definitely swears alot. I'm sure these are things that I could've accepted after a while, but being hit with all of them right away made me think she was insecure and just kinda strange. Next.
Sunday I'll be going out with HBCheerful (6) for pretty much the same thing. I like not being too invested in an actual 'date' so that way if things get kinda weird (like with HBHispanic), I can just talk with her for a little bit and move on without wasting too much time or money. This girl is really energetic and smiling a lot, and I hope that's not just an act. Seems like whenever I meet ones like this, everything's great for a couple weeks and then all of the sudden they start asking me for advice on all of their problems and then don't understand why I become scarce all of the sudden.
Another one I'm working on is HBNavy (8). She's definitely a game player, and I learned that really early on. I got her number on a Monday, and she said she'd be busy during the week but would be free to talk on the weekend. That was fine with me because that was a busy week for me too. I called her Sunday night and got her voicemail. Called again Monday afternoon and got it again. I'm on AIM later that night and she starts talking with me and says something along the lines of she was sad that I didn't leave a message for her. I immediately said something like, "I know that game, why didn't you pick up?" To which she said she was in the library. She told me in ******** to try again after spring break. We'll see if I'm still even interested after spring break.
HBArtsy (7) is in my tech writing class. She sat down next to me about 3 weeks ago and I opened saying I hadn't ever seen her in class before. We talked a bit, and I walked with her almost to her apartment (close to the parking lots). The third time this happened, I asked her if she wanted to go grab some coffee. She said she had somewhere she had to be, but that she'd see me more in class and in group projects. I wasn't sure exactly how to read this since she had been under a lot of family pressure the week before, so I decided to let it cool off and after spring break I'll start over again.
As far as self improvement, I've been working quite a bit to become more outgoing. My success story from about a week ago was in a communications class. The TA was playing an elaborate game of telephone to test active listening where he told one girl a story (about a page long), who then told it to another girl, and that girl told it to another girl. The first girl messed up off the bat, so by the time it was over it was nowhere near correct. The TA asked if anyone thought they could do a better job, and I volunteered. Got up in front of everyone and recited the thing nearly verbatim. The TA was amazed as I'd apparently done it closer than anyone before. So I killed 3 birds with one stone. Got a little bit more outgoing, became the center of attention in a lab of 22 girls and 3 guys, and possibly impressed some girls as a 'good listener.' We'll see. I'm thinking of trying for a couple HB8's in that class.
My goals so far are to become more outgoing, initiate alot more cold approaches, and get into better shape. These have been goals for a while and I'm slowly making progress on them (down to about 15lbs overweight from 40, for example). I should be able to look back at this 6 months from now and see some huge steps. We'll see.
Anyway, that's my first entry. Feel free to comment or criticize.
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