I was getting interested in this girl, but then I noticed her flirting with other guys. This upset me, and I told a friend of mine that I wasn't sure I should pursue anything with her. Then he gave me this great pearl of wisdom:
"What she does before you and after you is none of your business."
That phrase is always in the back of my mind now, because it relieved me of so much stress. He was right. We hadn't had sex yet. She can flirt all she wants. And after we have sex, if there's no understanding that we're going to be mutally exclusive, she has the right to flirt with other men.
Whatever the relationship, I have no right to be jealous before it starts and after it ends.
What about during the relationship? Personally, my relationships last about as long as a good bowel movement, but not quite as satisfying. But when I do get into a good one, I look at it like this: She cheats on me, and I find out about it, it's over. You must never love someone so much that you aren't willing to do this. No need to be jealous, I couldn't give a sh!t how much she flirts as long as I'm the only one hitting the pu$$y. If you can't handle the flirting, then it's time to leave.
Don't let yourself get jealous. It's destructive to the relationship, it clouds your mind, makes you suspicious and paranoid, and it attacks your dignity and self-esteem. Worst of all, it puts her in control.
So, in a nut shell:
1) Don't concern yourself with any flirting or sexual encounters she has before or after your relationship with her. They're not your business.
2) If you're in a relationship with her and she cheats on you, dump her. No ifs, ands, or buts. She's history. Buh-bye.
3) If you're in a relationship, and you can't handle her flirting, dump her.
Move on.
Don't let yourself feel jealousy.
"What she does before you and after you is none of your business."
That phrase is always in the back of my mind now, because it relieved me of so much stress. He was right. We hadn't had sex yet. She can flirt all she wants. And after we have sex, if there's no understanding that we're going to be mutally exclusive, she has the right to flirt with other men.
Whatever the relationship, I have no right to be jealous before it starts and after it ends.
What about during the relationship? Personally, my relationships last about as long as a good bowel movement, but not quite as satisfying. But when I do get into a good one, I look at it like this: She cheats on me, and I find out about it, it's over. You must never love someone so much that you aren't willing to do this. No need to be jealous, I couldn't give a sh!t how much she flirts as long as I'm the only one hitting the pu$$y. If you can't handle the flirting, then it's time to leave.
Don't let yourself get jealous. It's destructive to the relationship, it clouds your mind, makes you suspicious and paranoid, and it attacks your dignity and self-esteem. Worst of all, it puts her in control.
So, in a nut shell:
1) Don't concern yourself with any flirting or sexual encounters she has before or after your relationship with her. They're not your business.
2) If you're in a relationship with her and she cheats on you, dump her. No ifs, ands, or buts. She's history. Buh-bye.
3) If you're in a relationship, and you can't handle her flirting, dump her.
Move on.
Don't let yourself feel jealousy.
