Sansj`s Field Rapport - New Beginning

[Sansj]

Hi mates

I have determined that this is the first day of my long road to sucsess. I have grown tiered of being the wimp i have been the last years. And the only way is the hard way. And i would like to thank Jon and Snow for showing me that its possible to change for the better. Now its my turn!.

I`ll Start by setting some Goals for the time to come. And in time see if i have manage to smack them down.

Long Term Goals:
- Practise my skills for a year
- Learn until its comes natural.
- Change my self image for the better.

My day to day Goals:
- Get out more
- Approatch sets
- Meet new people
- Have a good time

My week to week Goals:
- Get more comfidence
- Get rid of AA
- Get better at (Opneners. Closes. Vibing and small talk)

Bonus Goals:
- Go for #Close
- Go for K.Close

I have decided to sett a limit of three days, Where i have to Approatch 3 sets a day. And in time this number wil grow. And my goals change.

Hope you would come with some advice or comments when i get the repport going. Nice to get some pointers. Wish me luck.

 

[daygameguy]

Jon and Snow are great guys. I love their FRs. I'm sure they gave you good advice. I also like your goals, pretty realistic.

Good luck, make it a habit to approach at least 1 girl during the day time, besides all your night time gaming.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Good look man, a few things that may help.

1. Small Chunk: you can't learn everything in a day work it piece by piece
2. Think Long Term: Don't rush it if your not getting something yet, better to have things internalized than dibble dabbling with the stuff.
3. Self-Actualization: If you transform who you are you will have a insane transformation, getting laid is just a side effect.

This is going to be a journal that I'll be watching for newbies as I've met many the biggest thing is actually getting the ball running...most guys I've met didn't last at all and it's because of this one thing they couldn't do...

REACH INDIFFERENCE THRESHOLD
To start internalizing things quickly you must get the experience of not caring what anyone thinks, if you full internalize this you'll get to the point where approaching doesn't matter and you have passed the scary part that most people don't get passed...

To do it understand that it doesn't matter what others think and just keep approaching, don't stop nor stall, just hit set after set...you will have now scrambled your brain and no longer care, it's similar to having total belief except instead your just very indifferent...

THE BIGGEST THING IS...CRITERIA FOR SUCCESS...don't be hard on yourself nor set the bar high...Success should be set by you, not by getting a lay, remember think long term...maybe at first success is you approached the chick, in the end it was a good night because you approached a chick...

Reason I say this is because MANY guys I've met don't know how to learn and haven't internalized much so it's still hard for them to do much...I hope you stick to this because the rewards are AMAZING...

 

[Sansj]

Thanks for the feedback guys. Really good advice. I have been thinking alot about how im going to do this. And taking it bit by bit i small victoryes sounds like the smart thing to do to get the ball rolling. I hope i dont let my self down or you guys down on this. I going to give it 1000% to get this going

Well today was my first day in my new reality. It was not that good. Or that bad To be the first day. Very nervous tho.

06.10.08
Location: Gym / Mall
Approaches: 2

Location: Gym
Rating: HB7

Well i got to the gym after work and i started looking around. I was kinda nervous so i started my workout. I tryed to get some good eye contact with some of the girs that was there. But dident get any good IOI`s. Then afther about 30min the HB7 that works there comes along.

HB7: Hi
Me: Hi
Me: Think i have been saying "hi" to you for a week now and i dont even know your name.
HB7: Ooh my name is Ida
Me: So i finally get to meet the great ida. My name is Sansj
HB7: smiles
Me: So i have notised that you have been working alot latly. Is it because of me being here?
HB7: "Shy smile" Well no. I kinda need the exstra money.
Me: And i thought you worked that much because of me
HB7:Giggles.. Youre sweet...
"Interupt"
"Her spining members come. She has to start the spining class."
HB7: Got to go start the class. Cya around...

Well she took of in a hurry. Kinda crashed for me there.

I got out of the gym and headed home to relax and find some new openers. Kinda in a good move. Then my bro called. And ask if i wanted to join him to the Mall. Sure. He piked me up and we went to the mall.

Location: Mall
Rating: HB5 / HB6

Alot of nice looking girls there. But for some reason i got really nervous agen. we walked around and i tryed to get some eye contact form some of the girls. I got some looks back but i dident dear to say anything.

We go to the pizza bar to get somthing to eat. And then two kinda okay girls walk in and sit down behind us. i dont think about what im about to do and just go for it.

Me: Hey girls could i ask you a question?
HBS: Sure
Me: We just had a convo overe here about the best pizza places in the mall. And we cant deside between Pizza Hut or Peppes. Whats youre opinion?
HBS: eeeeehh Peppes?
Me: Okey..

I couldent continiue. I got so nervous i dident get a word out after that. I just turned around and got my pizza down fast. And got the hell out of there. Crash and burn.. I need to find away to get over my extrem nervousness.. some how.. Hope you enjoyed my first day. hehe sorry for the bad spelling

 

[Sansj]

Today i have worked out a nice structure im going to follow when i finally gett the gutts to do a real random approatch. Trying to work on my AA problem but its kinda hard. Need to find away somehow.

 

[Snow Plowman]

It's good you actually went out there...

Something that helps a lot with AA back when I used to get it, is to be present and just go in with nothing in mind. Tap the chick, forget eye contact and whatever comes to you head say it. If you trust that something will come then you'll be on your way to seeing that just trusting yourself solves many of your problems.

The biggest pitfall is if you sit there thinking about what MIGHT happen...you never know what will happen, and what your thinking about makes no sense, just stay present and go.

Be totally indifferent and just go up...you don't have to be confident at this point, just indifferent...if you hit set after set you'll hit the indifference threshold which is a similar frequency as having total belief.

 

[Sansj]

So this week i havent had the chanse to update my progress. Been out of country on work and all sorts of stuff. But i have some progress i want to share with you.

From 07.10.08 To 10.10.08

From the 7 to the 10th i was out of country on work. I was in sweeden. But since norwegian and swedish ist that far apart i could play with some of the blond swedish girls.

I went to town eatch day to gett some suplyes. And i would try to mange my fear off approatching. But i couldent get my self to do it. So i just practised eye contact and smile I a big woos. I sad "hei" to alot off people and did some small talk with some people. This was a huge disapointmen to me. But this weekend getts better.

 

[Sansj]

10.10.08 Friday
Coffe Shop

Well afther i got home from sweden i figured i needed to take it abit slow. So i called up a frind. We desided to go to a coffe bar and chat up some people.
We got there and ordered somthing to drink. We meet some frinds and satt down. Afther a while i notised that one of the servents was kinda looking at me alot. I kinda walk past here on my way to the toilet. And i just say.

Me: Hey there
HBS: Hi there. Having a good night?
Me: Yeah going kinda good so far. Smile

I walk to the toilet. Had to piss like sh.t. Finally im done. I go back to my frinds. but then servent asks me.

HBS: Hey.. Take this. It will make your day even better. Smile
Me: ehhh okay thanks. I always wanted a blanky

We were sitting there for kinda a long time. And she was around the place all the time. Offering us more blanket. And gave us free peanutts hehe
Well i just small talked with here. Since she was working and all that. But think i got a good wibe out of here. I will go back to the coffe shop later today i think. And maby try to talk to here some more.

 

[Sansj]

11.10.08
Party / Town / After Party

Last night was one of the cooles nights i have had in a long time. It all started when me and two frinds got the idea of getting really drunk and just go around doing sh.t. We found a party and desided to go. We got there. It was about 8 people there. Started convos with everone. The sad thing was that the two girs was "taken" So i just desided to have fun. Started some drinking games. And just bounced around the place dancing after that. The two frinds i got there with started to get really drunk. We desided to go to town for some more to drink. hehe funny thing was that they couldent get out of the door. To drunk i think. THe stubled and fell throue all of the shoes that was in the enterence. Funny picture

We stubled out way to town. We found some stupid oldmen`s bar. Then moved on to the night clubs. meet some outher frinds and just had a blast.
Then two of my frinds left me. and started walk home. I desided to stay. Called up some outer dudes. I joined them. Then some outer things happende. Just meet people and had fun..

Then later. We got to this after pary. I was a at a girl i kinda know from long time ago. We talked and started a round of shots. Then the outer dudes got tired and fall a sleep. I stayed awake. and talked to this girl.

She had gave me some mad eye contact all the night. even looking straigt in my eyes even tho she was talking to somone els. I started a convo and she talked like mad and asked about my appinions on everything. I tryed to act cool and started joking with her. Did some rolleplaying and kinda teased her. It struck me that she was kino`ing me alot. Felt good. But u couldent get my self to kino her. .

Tralala
Later on she got really drunk. My frind had givene her alot of shots the past two houers.. She got sick. I had to drag her to the toilet. so she could puke hahah.. I draged her out and into bed. She tryed to get my to sleep there to but she passed out about then... hehe so we drowe home.. about 06.00 at moring

Ill try to chat her up to day and see how shes doing. And see if it was just the alcohol that made here act this way. hehe cool night

Hope there are somone that could give some advise on this.
Sorry that the Report ist tha good writhen. Hangover and cant remeber everything that happened last night hehe

 

[darkme_legendary]

Make your goals more clear. Get rid of the "week to week" goals. Make everything with a deadline.

Make it inevitable. ex: Give 20 bucks(or do something painful) to a friend for each day you don't do what you are supposed to.

 

[Sansj]

Good advice. Yeah that might help. Think im going to bet with my frind that i can do 10 approatches in 10 min. Just to try to get rid of the AA.. Bet alot of money. That should help..