Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Sad story.

thedoc

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Okay the reason I'm posting this here is I can't think of telling this ANYWHERE else where people could relate. This is also why I put it in this forum. I don't really think many people in High School forum would relate lol.

This is a rather sad story, but it's true. A word of advice don't read it if you're in a happy mood or are planning to go out soon :up:.





In a foreign Communist country there lived a boy named Alex.

Alex was like any other boy. He ran around, screwed around with his friends, and went to school. Along with his sister, Alex had almost an uncanny ability to care for others. Both of them would always put everyone in front of themselves even if it meant something as bad as not eating dinner that night.

Alex was also the top student at his school. Year in and year out, Alex was number one in his class. One year Alex noticed a group of girls getting hazed by some guys and stood up for them. He got his ass kicked and was sent to the hospital. After this Alex decided to take up boxing. He never got bullied again.

Around 5th grade, Alex's grandmother dies because she received bad care at the local hospital. The death was completely preventable. Ever since then Alex was determined to become a doctor and help others.

Fast forward to high school graduation. Alex graduated number one in the school but because he was a "minority" didn't recieve any awards. They were awarded to others who didn't deserve them paid off the principal. Regardless of that, Alex went on to go to medical school in a big city far away.

Once again, in premed and med school Alex worked harder than anyone and finished top three of his class. He went on to complete all his fellowships and internships and after years of grueling work finally landed a job at a big city hospital.

All was going well (not factoring in the struggles of Communist life) and Alex met a woman. She was a beautiful, country girl and Alex was in love. She instantly moved to the big city to live with the (relatively) rich doctor.

Life went on, Alex did all of the work, bought all the groceries, bought his new wife jewlery and clothes and everything she desired. She sat at home and did nothing.

One day, he came home and found out she had cheated on him with some random guy.

For the first few months Alex was in the hospital on severe suicide watch and his wife was sent home. He finally recovered and was about to kick her out for good. She begged and pleaded to let her stay because her family would then be discraced and her and her sister would never marry again.
Alex kept her in hopes that she would never dare the same stunt again.

Fast forward five years to when the couple immigrates to America. Alex is forced to attend medical school all over again. But now, he has a son and wife to support so every day after school he would drive and work to support his family. Now the trouble starts again. His son's welfare money suddenly starts to diapear. She made some bs excuse for that.

Alex still manages to finish med school with honors and by the time he finishes his residency and internships he has three kids. By now his wife knows what's up, know's she basically has the kids as hostages, and tries to take control.

Alex is a strong guy and when his position of man of the house is threatened he answers back. This causes fights which end up slowly tuamatizing the kids. Not only that, but naturally the kids always take the mothers' side. A mother can be a convict but she will always be a mother; always closer than the father. Not to mention the mother was always home all day, always happy and smily and giving food and letting the kids do whatever they want. While the mean, grumpy Alex would come home after his residency, after work, exhausted, and trying to set the kids straight. Obviously the mom is going to seem nicer.

This kept going on and getting worse for years and years. The mother would let the kids do anything while Alex would do the police work. When he said no, she would take the kids' side and argue against him. Yeah, very smart and respectful. Meanwhile Alex kept improving his career and making more and more money.

It's gotten to this point: Alex is in his fifties, looks like he's in his seventies. Is in extremely severe depression- double dosage sleeping pills aren't enough to get him to sleep. Alex is losing 20-30 pounds a year, every muscle and bone in his body hurts. Alex graduated two medical schools in two countries, and can't help himself. Neither can his doctor or psychiatrist. Only person who can help him is his lawer, who along with the freedom of a divorce, has proof that will land his wife minimum 3-5 years in prison (forgery/stealing money from his corporation- to pay for new clothers so she can see her secret lover).

But Alex can't do that. He continues to put up with his miserable life, just for his kids. He knows if he gets a divorce that his wife and her lover will still get a chunk of alimoney money. Not to mention everything he's worked so hard policing and enforcing will go down the drain instantly. His only option is to write a will giving his whole fortune to a close relative who can distribute it to his three kids fairly.

Today for the first time Alex randomly blacked and and almost fainted while standing. According to his own prognosis, unless this all of this stress is relieved immedietly, Alex has a few years left to live, and that's only based on strong will.




If you've read through that, thanks. Alex is not the real name of the man in the story. Some call him doctor, some call him friend, I call him daddy.

I'm not sure why I posted this. It certainly applies to these forums. Obviously shows how a woman can ruin such a great man's wife. Yeah she's my mother, but lately I've gotten completely sick of her. Too bad my little brother and sister are too young to understand, and if they find anything out they'll become truamatized for life.

Maybe I made this post as a warning. Maybe as just a rant. I'm not sure.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Scaramouche

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Dear Moderator,
Can I plead with you to leave this story on the Thread,this young guy is underage,but his story,visceral in the extreme,could be an abject lesson to some of the Mature DJ"s
 

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wow, I have to post.

Save your dad. If the only true reason he thinks staying together is 'for the kids', then convince your two siblings that it's in the families best interest to kick the mother/wife out on her ass. I'm not 100% sure of the laws in the US but I thought if there was proof of infidelity then you can divorce with no alimony payable(?). Do some research.

If your dad sees that all the kids are on his side, it would make things a lot easier for him. Also, as bad as it sounds - he could stop working (due to stress) and once lump sums have been paid out there should be no ongoing costs (child or spousal support) at least that's the way it works in Australia - how can the judge order you pay support if you're not working?

Relationships are the most important thing in your life (and I'm not just talking about women here). You need to help your dad now. If something happens and you felt you could have stopped it, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

By any chance, is your father Polish? I have a Polish ex wife and I can definitely relate to the "I deserve everything and don't want to work for it" attitude.
 

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hmm...honestly, i would start standing up against your "mother"...nothing violent of course..but i would definitely talk back...after all she's done, is she really still a "mother"?...or has she simply become a woman who gave birth to you?

have a talk with your mom...and have that talk everyday until she really decides to change...
though divorce woudl really be traumatic for you guys, the children...i wonder if that would be better for the family...i mean, your dad might die from your mom's actions...and it's not like the marriage is really healthy..it has really become an illusion

i think you guys would be better off with your parents divorced...cause otherwise, you guys might be left with only your mother...and that will be a bad life.
 

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jesus christ man...that was a sad story. You need to stand up for your dad.

If someone else took advantage of your dad would you let them? This b1tch is no longer your mother. Fvck that sentimental sh1t man. She is a wh0re and evil to the core. Trust me, she fvcked over her own husband who provided for her for decades. I wouldn't be surprised if in the future she started screwing her kids over or selling them out.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hi everyone i am new here and this is my 1st post
that story made me sad and angry, man is your mom cruel, your dad has a good heart dude but i do agree with desert fox he should leave her, what would make it even better for him and for you is if he had visual proof that she was cheating, seeing this secret lover of hers by hiring a private detective or something that most men do these days because if he had that it would it would entitle him to most of the money/ very large sum, the judge would then give her visitation rights or he can call for full custody of you and your brother and sister, that my advice to you dude, keep on keeping on.
 

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Thanks a lot guys for posting, it means a lot.


Yeah when I started to stand up for him he started feeling and looking better already:up:. Also, my dad knows psychology well and if he says I shouldn't tell my brother and sister, I'm not going to. About the proof, there is plenty of physical proof, my dad's lawyer is a beast lol.



Not to mention, whenever he sees me with girls he also becomes happier, and that's happening more and more often now :D.





The reason I posted that is for you guys to see what kind of sh1t happens. If I needed sympathy or empathy I have plenty of friends who I could talk to, but I didn't tell anyone about this yet, I might tell my girlfriend, not to sure yet.

Even so, I'm fine. I'm happier than I've ever been, and life for the most part is great. The sad truth is, my dad, and everyone else is going to die eventually, so there's no point in stressing over something I have no control over.


Again, thanks for reading/posting ;)
 

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Damn man this sh*t really is sad...your mother has no fvcking soul at all. I'm really sorry to hear about this and all I really gotta say is just be strong.

Godspeed to you
 
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