RSander's Approach Journal

[RSanders219]

Hey guys, I figured after signing up, lurking, and posting on this board for the past few months has helped me learn a lot and especially helped me overcome the anxiety of beginning a conversation with women who I don't know. I have actually gotten a few numbers and dates in the process, so it is definitely working! Thanks to all of the helpful supporters on this board, and all contributors to the DJ bible. Here we go!

Dec.24.2010 - Christmas eve, decided to go out to the bars with a few friends from college and my hometown. I see two girls sitting at the bar conversing, both are pretty attractive and I approach one.

ME:Hi, may I ask your name?
HER: Hi! My name is Eliza, nice to meet you what's your name? (Introduces me to her friend too)
ME: RSanders, nice to meet you both, so how's your night going Eliza?
HER: pretty good just having a few drinks
ME: That's great, so do you work or go to school right now?
HER: No I don't do either..
ME: Well that's cool, what are you into? Any interests or passions?
HER: No not really..
ME: Oh well I'm sorry to hear that, I'm going to go rejoin my friends over at our table if you'd like to come chat you're more than welcome, if not have a merry Christmas, take care.

I decided to leave this conversation since I could tell she had a disinterested look on her face. She also seemed sort of boring with a lack of input into the conversation. She did seem a few years older than me, but I figured it's just practice and opening a conversation with a women a few years older than me will help deter anxiety of initiating future conversations.

 

[drewsg]

Hey guys, I figured after signing up, lurking, and posting on this board for the past few months has helped me learn a lot and especially helped me overcome the anxiety of beginning a conversation with women who I don't know. I have actually gotten a few numbers and dates in the process, so it is definitely working! Thanks to all of the helpful supporters on this board, and all contributors to the DJ bible. Here we go!

Dec.24.2010 - Christmas eve, decided to go out to the bars with a few friends from college and my hometown. I see two girls sitting at the bar conversing, both are pretty attractive and I approach one.

ME:Hi, may I ask your name?
HER: Hi! My name is Eliza, nice to meet you what's your name? (Introduces me to her friend too)
ME: RSanders, nice to meet you both, so how's your night going Eliza?
HER: pretty good just having a few drinks
ME: That's great, so do you work or go to school right now?
HER: No I don't do either..
ME: Well that's cool, what are you into? Any interests or passions?
HER: No not really..
ME: Oh well I'm sorry to hear that, I'm going to go rejoin my friends over at our table if you'd like to come chat you're more than welcome, if not have a merry Christmas, take care.

I decided to leave this conversation since I could tell she had a disinterested look on her face. She also seemed sort of boring with a lack of input into the conversation. She did seem a few years older than me, but I figured it's just practice and opening a conversation with a women a few years older than me will help deter anxiety of initiating future conversations.

I think you dropped the ball there. You had them open up and you went into interview mode. You should've kept it more in the moment IMO

 

[RSanders219]

Dec.25.2010 - Christmas Day

A few friends and I decided to go to a 24 hour coffee place in my hometown. There was a pretty cute girl working at this place. I made sure to strike up some conversation with her before leaving, then I saw her walk out the door. Went outside to have a cigarette and initiated some convo. We just had some small talk about working, school etc.. she offered me her phone number to continue talking some time. (BINGO!).

Let me also say, this is the type of girl I would never have approached and asked for a number if it weren't for all of the tips the DJ Bible and this board has taught me. Word up!

 

[RSanders219]

Dec.28.2010 - Date #1

So I had met this girl at my friend's school and we made plans to do something together tonight.

Well we met up in the city of our college and went downtown. Kino'd with a hug when we met. walked around and checked out some book stores. Later on we went back to my place to have a few drinks and watch a movie. We didn't kiss or anything. This is our 2nd time hanging out so I wasn't really sure if I should make a move so quickly. I noticed a few IOI's toward the end of the movie. When I walked her back to her dorm, I gave her a hug and went for the kiss close. Seemed successful, got a flirty touch from her and a smile as she walked away. booyah!

 

[RSanders219]

Dec.31.2010 - New Year's Eve

This night I got two girls numbers! This DJ bible stuff is really working out for me! haha. One of them happened to be hosting a NYE party i wasn't even invited to too! . She was pretty cute (HB7) flirting with me for a good portion of the night. It seemed like she might've been talking to a guy there, but he seemed like just a boring dude that wasn't having a good time. The only thing is she said she dropped her phone and broke it 10 minutes earlier.. (well i can see it could've happened since shes pretty drunk, but might've just not wanted to look rude taking my number down in front of a guy she's talking to.) I figure i'll give her a call in a few days. if she picks up, cool.. if she doesn't, she's missin out!

Later this night, me and 2 friends wandered on to another party and I met another great looking cool girl! (HB7 as well). This girl and I were flirting hard! I was on top of the kino thing with her.. we kissed a few times she gave me her number, the only thing is she just got out of a relationship with a good friend of mine so I really don't want to jump in the middle of things. Honestly, I probably wouldn't have even been flirting with her if I weren't drunk haha. Well, it was a good new years eve!

 

[RSanders219]

Jan.8.2010 - Bar night

So a few friends and I went out to a bar in our hometown tonight. I noticed this girl working bussing tables and my jaw legit DROPPED. This girl was definitely HB 9 material. I said to my buddy "Wow I gotta talk to this girl there is nothing that can hold me back" So I go to approach her

Me: Hey how's it going?
Her: Good how are you?
Me: Great just hanging out with a few friends tonight, how is it working here?
Her: It's all right, kinda busy tonight

Right after she says that she moves a bus bucket into the kitchen. Now, it may seem like she may have not been interested.. But we maintained eye contact with eachother throughout this short conversation and I had her smiling even with the most basic conversation here. Now I am KICKING MYSELF IN THE ASS for not getting her name/number. I plan on heading out to this bar next weekend possibly to get her info and ask her out.

 

[RSanders219]

Feb.12.2011 - Bar night

So it's been a while since I updated this since I've been kind of preoccupied with school and some loser girl (as some of you may have seen in a post of mine the other day). Well anyways I went out to the bars tonight with some highschool friends..

Approach 1: bar worker girl (HB 8)

Me: Hey you look super familiar I just thought I'd share that with you.
HB8: Wow that's weird! I was just thinking the same thing!
Me: Haha! Yeah I could sorta tell! I was out here at this bar a month ago for a friend's bday party maybe that's how I know you
HB8:Yeah! I actually worked here back then I don't anymore
(Around this time was when my friends and I were gonna head to the next bar)
Me: Well hey! I gotta run. We'll hangout sometime soon though. Whats your number?
HB8: Well I can't give it to you my boyfriends right behind you.
Me: Aw well no worries, it was nice seeing you again take care!


Later that night.. Next bar (Approach 2)

I spot a pretty cute looking HB7.5 sitting with two friends looking bored to death.

Me: Hey! Whats up!
HB7.5: Hey not much how are you?
Me: Pretty good just hanging out with some friends back home for the weekend.. You seemed like you were bored so I figured I'd say hi and get to know someone new.
HB7.5: Aww haha! Yeah I am kinda bored!
Me: What's your name?
HB7.5: _____ what's yours?
Me: RSanders

(We build some rapport.. talking about work, school, what shes up to in life etc..)

Me: Hey I gotta run with my friends were heading to a party, how about we go out sometime? Whats your number
HB7.5: My number is ______ (Had me call it to make sure I got it right)

 

[RSanders219]

Feb.18.2011 - Concert

So tonight I went to a concert with a bunch of friends.. I talked to this pretty cute chick (HB 8) who happened to be a friend of a friend.

We start out at the concert hanging out saying hi and all that.. then after the concert we hit up a few bars. This girl and I really had some chemistry. Same interests, She had great taste in music (major turn on for me) go to the same college, made her laugh negged her a bit.. and got her number at the end of the night.. I plan on hitting her up a few days from now to chill and maybe get some coffee or something.