return of the ex (quick question)

[Supaman]

I come home this morning from a girl's house that I'm dating and sitting in front of y door is a shoe box. I open i up to find pictures from high school (we dated 4 years including two in college) of me, and some of my ex together, two cheap necklaces that I bought, and even a couple pictures of her alone. This is the girl that brought me here and now that I'm over her...she drops all these pictures and stuff off in front of my door. Now my question is, wtf is her reasoning for doing this? I haven't talked to her in 3 months which is the longest we ever went without talking. Does she want some kind of response or is this just a girl's way of letting you know that she is over you? And last but not least, what would you do?

 

[Slickster]

Classic move.

She knows you've moved on with your life and wants you to still want her.

Don't respond.

 

[Revlis]

There's no decent reason for her to do that except for attention or just been plain creepy.

She wants a response only so you can stroke her ego. If she's over you then she won't have the need to tell you if any fashion. Just don't think anything of it and get back to macking other ladies

 

[Supaman]

I never planned on contacting her, I've just got a curious mind. To add to the box....she took me off of block on instant messenger and her away message says hanging out with my baby and she has had it up for a good 12 hrs now...which is really stupid, b/c she has dial-up at her parents house (which she may have moved out)...so why keep the phone line busy? Doesn't make much sense to me....maybe somebody can shed some light on it for me. Oh and to add to it her info says true love is something that you never knew you were missing until you feel it the first time....then has her boyfriend's name with x's and o's...and then it says love the one that makes you happy. I just feel like she is trying to get back at me. I would say something, but there are 6 girls that I'm dating now and it wouldn't make much sense to do that. background isI treated her bad for a couple of years, b/c I thought all good looking girls were as nice as she is. I kind of just dragged her along for the ride. we weren't together for a couple months then I wanted her back, came to a middle ground and then just fell out. Just kind of venting, but any perspective is appreciated.

 

[WestCoaster]

Paralysis by analysis

From a guy who knows this stuff too well, you're doing what I did when I was your age: over-analyizing (sp?).

This is a classic American beyotch move, dump the goods. A friend of mine had a gal return all his stuff by mail. He promptly put return to sender on it ( classic DJ move) and she couldn't believe it.

Move on, do NOT for one more minute analyize the flawed logic in 99.9 percent of American women. It's not worth the time or energy.

It appears you've moved on well. Take that momentum and run with it and don't go near, talk, text, e-mail, or communicate with the ex.

 

[trevor2003]

I've encountered this stuff before, it is clear that she is an ATTENTION WH0RE!!! No doubt about it!!!

DO NOT TRY TO CONTACT HER!!!

Maybe she left that stuff at your door because she doesn't want it anymore, but more than likely she just wants to get your attention. AND HER PLAN HAS WORKED SO FAR!

She took you off block of instant messager so YOU could read her bull**** away message!! Why the hell would she leave it on that long??????? BECAUSE she wants to make sure YOU read it!!

She wants to make you jealous, she wants to make sure YOU know she has a new boyfriend!

She wants to feel better about herself by making you feel like bad!

Females are so predictable!!

Delete your instant messager right away and keep pursuing those other 6 chicks!!!

 

[Supaman]

Thanks for the replies....I know better than to contact her from what I've learned here and most of what I've known my entire life......but the replies have just made me realize that I have already given it way too much attention...when there are other girls to be had. Thanks.

 

[NatureGuy]

Like you, I would be curious about the
whole thing and might contact her.
What harm would there be?
It doesn't sound like this is a girl you'd
want to pursue though.

 

[WestCoaster]

Curiosity killed the DJ

Nature and Supa .. they want you to be curious, they want to throw you off your game. Read the headlines on Cosmo sometime: How to manipulate your man, etc.

Move on, don't wonder, there's nothing to wonder about, it's an American beyotch game. The harm in contacting her is having old feelings boil up and giving her the upper hand. Don't do it!

Curiosity killed the DJ.

 

[Supaman]

Originally posted by NatureGuy
Like you, I would be curious about the
whole thing and might contact her.
What harm would there be?
It doesn't sound like this is a girl you'd
want to pursue though.

I'm not going to contact b/c when I was her I'll only chsed her once and that ended badly.....she was sweating me the other 3 1/2 yrs we were together. She always thought we would get married, and she is marriage material, I just don't have the desire to have a woman slow me and my goals down....thus the reason for dating so many girls. I figure if it was anything more than her just trying to let me know she is over me....she'll contact again, but regardless of whether she does or not......you can never go back......so I either 1. won't answer or 2. will be a jerk when talking to her.

 

[Cremasta]

From experience I can tell you that old photos and letters from an ex-gf are an excellent way to get a barbecue started.