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Rethinking the slut

Pandora

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I have noticed something about "sluts". It does not make sense for men to demonize slutty behavior. Sluts are not abnormal. They are what you would expect. Its the girl that is only a slut to the top 10% of men that is the aberration. There are 2 types of girls. Let me explain.
** as a disclaimer this post only applies to men that are average guys. If you are reasonably good looking and socially well adapted. Most men are similar enough that they fall somewhere in the 50th percentile. This only applies to them. If you are obese and weird even hot sluts won't let you smash**

1.) The average hot western girl has a lot options. This distorts everything. Even after they meet a decent guy they end up as some form of orbiter. She definitely sees value in the average orbiter. She calls him, goes on a date with him and hangs out with him. There is nothing wrong with him. For most of human history he would have been a catch. He still is and she knows it but he is being outranked by her perceived options. She will not have sex with him. With holding sex from orbiters is a dating strategy and has nothing to do with lack of attraction.
She is perceived as not slutty, even though she has the same urge to hook up with him as the slutty girl. She just doesnt becuz she has other higher ranking guys to hook up with. It would compromise her SMV if any one found out. This chasteness has nothing to do with a lack of sexual appetite. It is just rank. This is why ugly girls will fu** that same average guy. You think that ugly girls just have different hormones?? No. Its supply and demand. Check out this link.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=169885

2.) The slut is just a girl who sleeps with every guy that meets her baseline criteria. She is not running any manipulation game in order to use her orbiters as back up. Its not that she is slutty. Its just that she recognizes that a lot of guys are reasonably funny, decent looking and cool. Why put them in the orbiter position if they meet the minimal criteria. She does not recognize the advantage to having a dating strategy where only top guys smash. The slut is a girl that is not artificially picky. This does not mean that a slut has no standards. It just means that her standards are somewhat sane and reasonable. The criteria is be in decent shape, be cool, be funny, and then you will RELIABLY hit the sexual interest mark for a slut. To be honest hot sluts get hit on dozens of times a week. So even if a girl has been with 20 guys she is a lot more picky than her number would suggest.

With a non slut hot chick (9/10) you can be reasonably charming, good looking, and cool but that does not mean that you will reliably hit that sexual interest goal. This is just a ticket to the friendzone or orbiter status. You gotta be famous or sumthing lol.

In my life i have had sex with only a few hot chicks 8/10's. Some of them have been promiscuous. I appreciate that they recognized my worth and that their expectations in a partner were reasonable. The down side to this is that there are a lot of decent looking cool guys out there, so these girls can easily replace you if u guys are not in a relationship. My point is that dont demonize hot sluts that let u smash becuz you are only working against ur best interest. As men we cant complain about how hard it is to get laid becuz of the ridiculously high standards of hot chicks and then demonize hot chicks that let normal guys smash. The only time a girl should be called a slut is if she cheats on you in a relationship. Not all sluts cheat in a relationship.
This is a funny video about what i am saying http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxzW1BP4AEQ

Oh and more importantly as men we need to stop hanging out with girls that have unreasonably high standards. You will be a lot happier. Hang out with hot chicks that are slutty. These are like hippy chicks, european girls (liberal sexual attitude), non conservative chicks, hot cougars etc.....Much of the bitterness towards women will melt away. When i hung out with European girls it was a whole different universe of p***. They just didnt have the same attitude about only gunning for only the top dogs...American girls consider them slutty.
 

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Now im not saying wife up the neighborhood bicycle. Girls that are extremely promiscuous often have mental issues or are not in the right state of mind. It is also dangerous as far as STD's go. What i am saying is that change the social circle you hang out with. You will find that sexual attitudes are VASTLY different depending on the crew you hang in. There has to be a middle ground. Many hot chicks are too far to the super selective side of the spectrum. They are saving themselves for the alpha 9/10 guy. Going after these girls will only leave u miserable. All i am saying is that change your social circle or meet more girls. You will find girls that will have a more realistic view on who should get the p**y. This is why girls shame sluts.

Becuz they know that sluts are messing up the game plan that women have. Its like the unspoken plan was to keep the value of pu** high so that men have to work hard as sh** even to get scraps. But sluts lower the collective market value of pu** to a more realistic level. This is why chicks hate sluts and strip clubs.

So im not sayin have sex with a super nasty *****. I am saying dont reward the i think my vag is made outa gold girls. We should find girls that are have realistic expectations. Switching up ur culture does that. Hang with artsy chicks, or foreign chicks or sum thin.
 

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That was a lot of convoluted reasoning and I'm not really sure what you are trying to say. I think you are still figuring things out.

Sluts are nothing new, it is the preponderance and tolerance of sluts that is new in culture.

The reason why slutty behavior is more commonplace now is that the consequences are not the same. Much of the shame attached to indiscriminate sex has now dissolved. And men ENCOURAGE it. We are just as much to blame. Girls have learned that they can use their pvssy for power (thanks to more cultural freedom), and men have responded to this by taking the most expedient path possible to a lay. There is no longer any economic benefit for us to invest in courtship with the average girl, because we just don't see any returns on this investment. So girls will put out sooner to remain relevant and have some perceived power, and men will preferentially select promiscuous behavior because hey, why buy the cow...

So we now have men selecting sluts because of expediency, and women more prone to slutting about because of the lack of consequences and the sense of power or validation it gives them temporarily.

You did touch on a good point that the behavior of girls is very much a herd phenomenon, and if you are going to the places *****s go (bars, parties, and, clubs), you are pre-selecting for this type of girl. Conversely if you hang in more conservative circles, you will see less overt whoring. Shaming is a huge influence in female sexual behavior.


There are many other nuances to this but it's good to keep the big picture in mind: Women are the keepers of sex, men are the keepers of commitment. You only give your commitment to those who haven't abused their bodies and squandered their value, and you don't hold in high value those who do.
 

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I gave up a long time ago on the attitude that one girl is a slvt, but another girl might not be. No matter what woman you're looking at, she might not be a slvt for you, but at some point somewhere, she'll be somebody's slvt.
 

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This is what i am saying its kinda hard to explain: But the video explains
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooUFCIDV-a4

Imagine a world where there no easy chicks, no strippers, no porntstars no girls who put out on the first or 2nd date. The world would be miserable if every girl had a bit** shield and made you work for it and still didnt give it up to you.

If the world were full of "easy" chicks there would be a lot less sexual frustration in men. Would this site even exist? See easy chicks dont send the mixed signals and arent flaky. They are almost a whole different species of girl. Some of my best memories in life have been becuz i was hanging out with girls that were very sexually liberal and free spirited. And im sayin guys should target those girls and reward them instead of the entitled chicks.
Sluts even help your confidence when your on a drought. This is why i have seen advice on here saying that major AFC's who are virgins should try to maybe pay for it the first time to get their confidence up and then approach girls. Bottom Line: easy girls reduce guys sexual frustration. Eliminate easy girls and some guys would never get laid becuz all u have left is girls going for the top 10%.
 

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I gave up a long time ago on the attitude that one girl is a slvt, but another girl might not be. No matter what woman you're looking at, she might not be a slvt for you, but at some point somewhere, she'll be somebody's slvt.
very true Bible Belt......but would you agree that there are some girls who have a fundamentally different view of sex. To them sex is just not that big of a deal. If they think a guy is cool, they will give it up. As opposed to the normal hot chick who has a army of orbiters that she thinks are cool but wont give it up.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
I gave up a long time ago on the attitude that one girl is a slvt, but another girl might not be. No matter what woman you're looking at, she might not be a slvt for you, but at some point somewhere, she'll be somebody's slvt.
This reminds me of the saying: "Every man wants a slut, he just wants her to be HIS slut". I've never quite accepted that line of thinking. Just because a girl enjoys sex with you doesn't make her a slut. A slut, by definition, is giving it to a number of guys. If she's just giving it to you, she's not a slut. Being a slut is about numbers, it's not about what actions she performs in bed.
 

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zekko said:
A slut, by definition, is giving it to a number of guys. If she's just giving it to you, she's not a slut. Being a slut is about numbers, it's not about what actions she performs in bed.
I see what you're saying, but I still think current state of mind is a better definition. What if a woman is an ex-hooker who found Jesus? Is she still a slvt if she won't fvck?

And I can get a girl to do an awful lot of twisted things without involving another guy, twisted to the point that I don't think they would be doing them with me if they were not mad at daddy. If slvttiness is a psychological trait, then it has to exist independent of men. The slvts of the world all had to get fvcked a first time, and I think they were slvts then, even before the men of the world started enjoying them.
 
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