Responding to the "player" accusation

[STR8UP]

I won't go into details of how this subject came up since I'll catch all kinds of sh!t for it, but lets say a woman you have known for a long time introduces you to one of her friends as a "player".

How do you respond?

I don't know how the subject came up, but within three minutes of meeting this girl for some reason she asked if I was a player (it was within the context of the convo), to which my friend responded "Oh yea, most definitely. He's a BIGTIME player'. From that point on the conversation was centered on "picking the brain of the player".

I don't consider myself to be such, but I just played along and said "Fukk it....I'll tell you whatever you want to know, just ask".

The new chick was fascinated and agreed with a lot of my opinions on dating and relationships. It was kind of fun. I learn a lot from those kinds of discussions.

I know witha new woman it's often just a test, but in a case of where the woman has known you for years and actually believes that you are the "keeper of a harem", how do you usually respond to that "accusation"?

 

[Mr. Me]

By over exagerrating it; spoofing it and deflecting it off, rather then getting into any deep or serious conversations regarding dating, relationships and the differences between men and women.

SHE: So, she says you're a player?
ME: Oh she's crazy! But buy me a drink anyway.

By replying in a serious manner, you dignify her labeling you by your response.

 

[STR8UP]

I've heard this more times than I care to even think of, and it is usually women who are attracted who make this accusation (actually it is pretty much ONLY women who are interested who even bring it up).

But it was an interesting experience to be introduced to someone in that way, who was VERY inquisitive as to how the male mind works.

You can call me a pu$$y or whatever the fukk you want, but I actually enjoy analyzing women in this way. i like to get into conversations and ask them questions and pose hypothetical situations that make them think and watch their reaction.

I'm pretty opinionated on this subject, and I have to censor myself from time to time just to keep it from turning into a losing battle, but I'm generally not afraid to tell them how it is.

The most fascinating part of this is that both of these women were born in other countries. Now THAT can throw a wrench into things, cause I had the new girl basically agreeing with me that feminism is a cancer that needs to be eradicated.

It's quite interesting to get perspectives from various women on the subject of relationships.