Relationships are traps. Lots of people that frequently visit this site, already have acquired some parts of the DJ-mindset. So, with their newly acquired stuff, they are eager to get some girls. So time passes by, and they end up in a relationship. They get attached to the girl. They think they love her, they think they will always stay with this person and that she’ll never leave him. He thinks that he has made it in life concerning romantic issues. He starts to neglect the DJ principles. He starts to loose his eagerness to become better and his progress stagnates. The girl, who fell for his DJ mindset, sees all this inner changes with the boy and she starts to get less respect for him. And then, he gets dumped. The boy is wondering why she dumped him. “Didn’t I get her because of my DJ mindset?” He thinks all the stuff that is said on the site is rubbish and he has no more interest in the principles, and he becomes the AFC he was before, with the result that he can only hope to get a nice girl who treats him with respect.
The moral of the story: If you’re in a relationship, don’t stagnate and keep working on yourself and don’t think that she “loves” you for who you are.
Keep on working on yourself, even if she says she loves you. take this with a grain of salt (is this a good expression?). With the word “love” she means: “I want you because you have so much inner strength, because I don’t know you totally, because you keep on amazing me.” I think romantic love shouldn’t be called love. Romantic love should be called: Desire (or something, but not love!)
But there’s one thing I still don’t understand. Lots of people say that love comes after so many years of staying together, and that means that the woman knows the man very good, and she knows everything about him, she knows how he thinks, she knows how he acts and reacts. So the man doesn’t have anymore “tricks” to keep her interested. How does this come? Is it because women loose their behavior that they have when they are 18? Does this mean that men can be AFC when they want a women that is more mature? Do women ever grow up in fact? I want to figure this one out, and I would appreciate some help.
The moral of the story: If you’re in a relationship, don’t stagnate and keep working on yourself and don’t think that she “loves” you for who you are.
Keep on working on yourself, even if she says she loves you. take this with a grain of salt (is this a good expression?). With the word “love” she means: “I want you because you have so much inner strength, because I don’t know you totally, because you keep on amazing me.” I think romantic love shouldn’t be called love. Romantic love should be called: Desire (or something, but not love!)
But there’s one thing I still don’t understand. Lots of people say that love comes after so many years of staying together, and that means that the woman knows the man very good, and she knows everything about him, she knows how he thinks, she knows how he acts and reacts. So the man doesn’t have anymore “tricks” to keep her interested. How does this come? Is it because women loose their behavior that they have when they are 18? Does this mean that men can be AFC when they want a women that is more mature? Do women ever grow up in fact? I want to figure this one out, and I would appreciate some help.
