Relationship cooling down a bit... or heading south... what the hell do I do?

[dontknowbouthat]

EDIT: Digging through my memory, I came to a moment that may have been the hinge on which our relationship turned. A few weeks ago, I told her I loved her. We were having a really intimate moment, and some voice in my head said "She'll eat it up! Go for it!" Of course my feelings weren't that strong, but I said it anyway. Yes, she ate it up... AT THAT MOMENT. I want to strangle myself for saying that.

I'll try to keep this as short as possible while making it as informative as possible.

My girlfriend of about 4 months used to initiate conversations all the time. On facebook, text... whatever. We both suggested when to hang out. We were both very open. Sex made us closer than we were before, and everything seemed great.

Unfortunately, the last few weeks have made me rethink our relationship.

We're both in high school, and over the past few weeks she's seemed more distant. She's less willing to talk about sex, rarely initiates conversations, and is just distant. I'm afraid to bring this up because I don't want to seem weak, which is obviously the last thing I would want to happen. I can't think of anything specific that made her change, which is why this whole situation is just mind boggling to me.

So right now I can't see us breaking up, but things have faded from where they used to be. How exactly do I proceed? Should I text her only once or twice a week? Should I talk about how I feel?

I used DJ techniques to get her to be my GF, but I feel like I've slipped into AFC mode lately... is there any way to salvage this relationship?

 

[Igetit!]

I'll try to keep this as short as possible while making it as informative as possible.

My girlfriend of about 4 months used to initiate conversations all the time. On facebook, text... whatever. We both suggested when to hang out. We were both very open. Sex made us closer than we were before, and everything seemed great.

Unfortunately, the last few weeks have made me rethink our relationship.

We're both in high school, and over the past few weeks she's seemed more distant. She's less willing to talk about sex, rarely initiates conversations, and is just distant. I'm afraid to bring this up because I don't want to seem weak, which is obviously the last thing I would want to happen. I can't think of anything specific that made her change, which is why this whole situation is just mind boggling to me.

So right now I can't see us breaking up, but things have faded from where they used to be. How exactly do I proceed? Should I text her only once or twice a week?

Well,if you're sure that there isn't another guy in the picture that's drawing her attention away,then it's probably just her attraction level for you is running low.

If that's the case,then don't worry,this can EASILY be repaired.

Should I talk about how I feel?

No,no and no. No to the 5th power. Don't EVER do this.

is there any way to salvage this relationship?

Well if it's just her chemistry getting low,then yes.

I don't want to have to type this out again for a thousandth time,so I'll just give you a link to it.

Here,check out THIS. Don't worry,it's not 5 pages of a thread to read,just one single reply. Just skip down to reply #14 and read it.

It should shed some light on why things have seemed to cool off with your relationship,and it'll tell you what to do to get things back on track.


Later man.

 

[jnice48146]

Bump to Igetit for the sound advice. Listen to this dude. His advice helped me. Thanks again, Igetit!

 

[dontknowbouthat]

Yeah there isn't another guy, I'm in her social circle and I know who she deals with.

I read that post, and I have an idea of how I'm going to deal. Thanks alot man.