Rejection...(what do women say)

[Omen]

So I was thinking today about exactly what women say when they reject you, and since all of my relationships have been pretty straight forward, I guess i'm not sure the norm as to what a womans response is, nor what your response should be.

I was wondering from all the guys here who approach and it has happened too, (and not that its a bad thing cause not everyone wants to date everyone) what is it that you've found most of the time you get told, and what response do you have?

You: So can get your number and call you sometime?
Her: Insert what ever girls may say________________
You: What's your response_____________

Also too, if anyone wants to share the rudest thing a woman has said to you, and your response, feel more than welcome too, as i'd like to see how harsh some have been, and how you've responded back.

I'm sure some of you have pretty good responses that really shocks them. But i'd like to get a feel of what's the norm for most girls, and the most response we should give back.

 

[Nighthawk]

If you say 'Can I get your number and call you sometime?' you are going to get a lot of rejections.

 

[Omen]

Well, it doesn't have to be put that way obviously, but it was just for posting purposes. We know there are tons of ways to ask, so instead of trying to post 100s of ways guys ask women out I used it.

Now maybe the rejection could depend on the approach method or question, and I can see that. If you are really sincere and you do the DA approach and tell the woman she's beautiful, grab her hand, look in her eyes, say you'd like to get to know her... Yeah, I assume it would be maybe more of a... Oh that's sweet but I already have a boyfriend as opposed to just going... Can I get your number you hot piece of ass?

 

[Skydiver43127]

Why are you preparing for failure?

 

[Omen]

Why are you preparing for failure?

Well, i'm not preparing for failure, but I would rather be prepared and know what some good responses are then to just walk away, or what to expect to get told.

Its always good to have the tools on hand even if you might not need them.

 

[Maxtro]

When you tell a girl to give you her number if she is not interested the most common response is, "I have a boyfriend." The other common response is "Why don't you give me yours"

If she tells you that she has a boyfriend there are a hundred possible responses here

If she says "Why don't you give me yours" then just tell her "I don't give my number to girls. You could be one of those crazy chicks that never stops calling."

 

[Omen]

When you tell a girl to give you her number if she is not interested the most common response is, "I have a boyfriend." The other common response is "Why don't you give me yours"

If she tells you that she has a boyfriend there are a hundred possible responses here

If she says "Why don't you give me yours" then just tell her "I don't give my number to girls. You could be one of those crazy chicks that never stops calling."

I met one of those crazy chicks once. We talked a bit online, and I had had her in a class, but she was in the front row and I was in the back and didnt really talk to her.

Anyway I was like your the girl that was in my class last semester. So we talked and decided we'd meet the next week. She had my number and I had hers, and she said this to me BEFORE WE REALLY MET..

"I'm thinking about you" and one txt she sent when I told her I was off to bed cause it was late was... dream of me

Good thing after we met and I told her it wouldn't work, she didnt bug me after. I get scared that one out of the many you date may be the one who cant leave you alone.

When I went to a party last week, some dudes ex found out, and asked if she could come, and he was like... NO. Good thing she didnt show up. But, she makes visits to work on occasion. Those are the types that cant let go, and glad i've never had to deal with that yet.

 

[saber]

i was reading a thread similiar to this on a non pick up forum...the guys were so clueless...lol I didn't expect that here really tho...

To me it just seems obvious no matter what words she uses..trying to counter-act or justify the statement is not only qualifying but a wild goose chase because it is definately her excuse and nothing more

in all honesty tho i cant give advice on how to counter act this but the girl I just stopped seeing (im still rafc) was giving subtle hints that she was less interested...I stopped communication pre-emptivly and it increased her want to contact me but not to phvck

 

[young_gun]

The rudest thing I've ever had a woman say to me was "No, I don't know you" and "I don't give out my number to people I don't know". I've never had a woman say "Get away from me you f*cking creep" or anything like that. If I ever had a woman say that to me, I would consider it more of a rejection on my part (me rejecting her). First impressions mean a lot to me. If she gets THAT uptight about it, she obviously isn't someone I want to have anything to do with.

Honestly, when I get phone numbers, I hardly ever get turned down. I can feel if an interaction is going well enough to where she would give it to me. I'm not just some bloodhound out looking for numbers from whoever I can get them from. If I don't feel a 'click', I save myself a possible rejection and don't bother asking for it. Sure, the worst that could happen is that she would say "no", and there IS a possibility that she COULD say yes, but if she's just honestly a cold fish (it happens), I don't even bother. In the past, I've tried to bulldoze my way through this and get the number anyway, and sometimes I'll get it. But I've found that if she doesn't seem interested in person, she won't on the phone, and she won't after 2 or 3 dates. It's a waste of time.

By the way, I don't consider a woman saying "I have a boyfriend" to be a rejection. There's nothing I could have done about that anyway. The only times I really consider myself to get rejected is when I go into a situation where I'm either really nervous or did something really stupid to warrant a rejection. If I'm out, relaxed, having fun, and some girl is too stupid to see what she's missing out on, then that's too bad for her.

 

[marinetti]

good call on the boyfriend comment, younggun. though if a girl does have a boyfriend, she may have trouble returning calls. usually i go with this in those cases:

"I like you, you're fun to talk to, but I have to get going now. I'd like to stay in touch though. What's the best way to keep this conversation going?"

It might mean email, but it also means that she's willing to talk to you despite her boyfriend, which is a big plus for you regardless.