"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rejecting Colleagues' and Friends' Offers to Set Me Up

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In about six weeks I've had three different friends/colleagues want to set me up with their wives' friends (at the wives' requests). I'm sure this is only going to continue. While it's nice to be so highly regarded, I've also realized that I can't in good conscience take them up on their offers.

Why? Because I don't want to deal with the blowback.

Not because of any problem I'd cause. But I'm willing to bet that my ability to walk away from terms and behavior that are not to my liking rather than compromise, my unwillingness to tolerate or settle for the outrageous entitlement issues and unreasonable expectations that have now become characteristic of the typical woman, my tendency to create sexual tension rather than cut it, my aloofness, my more conservative (cough sexist) views, etc. would not go over well, on average, with female friends of friends/colleagues. The probabilities are against it.

Rather than alienating mentors, supervisors, or friends because of the nagging of their wives, I find myself having to politely decline. Has anyone had similar experience?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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