~~~Regret Ever Breaking Up with Her~~~

[guambombO]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=90779

Thats the original post. I love this girl to death but sometimes she just makes me feel so bad about myself. I made the mistake of jumping to conclusions and thinking that she was going to break up with me. She was becoming not only harsh with me but wanted us to be further apart by not being sexual for awhile. The topic od pickiness came up and I told her that it paid off for me. She just responded by saying that atleast it worked for one of us. This was devistating and she still denies that she meant it. I broke up with her over the phone and I think I was caught up in the situation. Next day we dont talk and she text me asking if this is how she wanted things to be. I ende dup the whole night begging her to get back with me. She just told me that we would never be a couple again and that us being friends would never workout. I kept making her angry and she would hang up. She would call back 20 min. later everytime. I dont know what to do anymore because I want her back so badly. I think I did this to gain control back in our relationship but I never expected this nor did I expect to feel this way. Can you help me out and do I have a chance?

 

[Adone]

Originally posted by guambombO
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=90779

Thats the original post. I love this girl to death but sometimes she just makes me feel so bad about myself. I made the mistake of jumping to conclusions and thinking that she was going to break up with me. She was becoming not only harsh with me but wanted us to be further apart by not being sexual for awhile. The topic od pickiness came up and I told her that it paid off for me. She just responded by saying that atleast it worked for one of us. This was devistating and she still denies that she meant it. I broke up with her over the phone and I think I was caught up in the situation. Next day we dont talk and she text me asking if this is how she wanted things to be. I ende dup the whole night begging her to get back with me. She just told me that we would never be a couple again and that us being friends would never workout. I kept making her angry and she would hang up. She would call back 20 min. later everytime. I dont know what to do anymore because I want her back so badly. I think I did this to gain control back in our relationship but I never expected this nor did I expect to feel this way. Can you help me out and do I have a chance?

I can imagine how you feel, dude. You almost always have a chance, but you should really think about it:

1. Do you really want her back because you're in love or because you're somehow "addicted" to her?

2. How long have you two been together?

3. Are you sure you're completely uninterested in other girls?

4. Don't you want to enjoy the "Single's life"?


Take it easy, man. I don't want to sound harsh, but consider that probably it's all in your head: how many people divorce nowadays? I think just about 20% of people find their real love in life, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE FOUND YOURS AT 17?!


I'm in a situation similar to yours, pal, but we haven't broken up, yet, probably because I'm not man enough to accept it's done for us...


Adone

 

[guambombO]

Re: Re: ~~~Regret Ever Breaking Up with Her~~~

Originally posted by Adone
I can imagine how you feel, dude. You almost always have a chance, but you should really think about it:

1. Do you really want her back because you're in love or because you're somehow "addicted" to her?

2. How long have you two been together?

3. Are you sure you're completely uninterested in other girls?

4. Don't you want to enjoy the "Single's life"?

1. Yea I know im in love. Ive been with numerous woman but I just feel so different.I broke up with her, yet I feel like she broke up with me.

2. 6 months off and on

Before her girls usually come to me. I really have no desire to go out and find a chick because I have school/soccer/college apps./friends to focus on.

Though I do find the singles life fun, I still have a bit of that while im with her. I have guys night out but other then that, being with her makes me happy.

I saw her tonight. Though I had to fight it, I got to see her. I wasnt sure what I was going to say. I told her everything that was on my mind, she listened. She told me that she didnt want me to hurt and things would workout, they always do. She also told me that we would get back together because we always do. Funny thing is, she was just off on her way to the club with her girl friends. I dont know what to make of this, was she trying to feed me what I wanted to hear? If we get back together, could our relationship be stronger?

 

[Adone]

Re: Re: Re: ~~~Regret Ever Breaking Up with Her~~~

Originally posted by guambombO
I saw her tonight. Though I had to fight it, I got to see her. I wasnt sure what I was going to say. I told her everything that was on my mind, she listened. She told me that she didnt want me to hurt and things would workout, they always do. She also told me that we would get back together because we always do. Funny thing is, she was just off on her way to the club with her girl friends. I dont know what to make of this, was she trying to feed me what I wanted to hear? If we get back together, could our relationship be stronger?

Firstly, I want to tell you a thing I noticed: the period between 6 and 12 months is the one you are most in love with each other. I remember how I would have felt if I had to break up with my current girlfriend in those months, because I felt just like you: I thought I had found my signficant other.

Anyway, I don't think your relationship would be stronger: whenever something bad happens during a relationship, it will damage that.

Though, I don't think she was just trying to feed you what you wanted to hear. She probably wants you back again. But remember that yesterday she went clubbing. DO NOT FORGET IT.

 

[MightyMate]

Dont be lame.

 

[guambombO]

Yea Im just so confused rightnow. We had sex the other night and she still acts as though im still with her. Then there are those times where she doesnt react to anything.... I think a lot of reason behind me breaking up with her was with my best friend. He doesnt like her and when I was debating or 'brought it up' he backed it up 110% and didnt let it go. I do regret this but I dont know what shes thinking anymore. Any ideas????

 

[guambombO]

yeah well you guys have any advice on how to get her back???

 

[JayUK]

all u can do is try man, jus do wat ure heart tells u 2!
Or go watch sum moooovies an do what they do!

 

[guambombO]

Do I cut off contact with her? I mean ive been reading the harder I try, the more ill push her away and lose all my chances. I suppose I made myself look stupid by breaking up with ehr and then asking her to tak eme back the next day. Its difficult though because I see her everyday and shes in 1 of my classes. Does anyone have any idea for my current situation?