"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Red-pilled leadership

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In a music ensemble we talked about a cooperation issue, and one of the female musicians responded by blurting out how hard her studies are (we all have the same) and started crying. I’d say she played the victim card and tried to manipulate using tears.

It worked. I instantly folded, started pampering.

The right response would be “You cannot behave like this. You will have to go into another room and calm yourself.” However, I also instantly/subconsciously knew that I cannot say that, I would be sent to the head principal, sent to a “equality/gender course”, etc.

In another ensemble that I’m running another female musician flaked for a rehearsal and in the chat afterwards wrote something I would interpret as some kind of **** test/baiting/drama. It’s essentially a work place, and I haven’t done any moves. I solved this by casually and friendly talking with her, and seems rapport was established after that.

I buy metoo and glass ceiling and all, but it’s also a concern that the pendulum swings to the other extreme. We need some kind of moderation.

A deconstructed/biological perspective on men is widely accepted (“These horrible, horrible men are horny all the time due to testosterone.”), but I lack the same perspective on women. I read there was research showing most violence occurs in lesbian relationships, the least in homosexual, heterosexual in the middle. I don’t remember where I read it, but they hypothesised that men have calming effects on women. (Much can be questioned about statistical robustness/causality/theory though.) I was told women are over-represented in emotional instability and bi-polar disorder, and I’m concerned with this and how our work environments will be with women bringing things like **** tests into the work environments. A red pilled awareness is needed to avoid these kind of problems.

It would be great with a Rational Male 5 (haven’t read RM4), this time about leadership/management. Maybe @Rollo Tomassi is up for the challenge. Perhaps would be fun to research.

Any comments or similar experiences?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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