*Warning* This post is probably common sense to the more experienced DJs in this forum. I am, however, just starting my quest and doing the necessary soul searching / introspection that I feel is a necessary step before achieving higher levels of this game.
I've been reading a ton of books, articles, and posts to improve my game. Most are around Red Pill type of things, some are more generic self-help, and a few are even odd ball psychology books. My free time is now solely reading, going on dates, and working out.
After reading I decided that I should document my past 4 serious relationships and what went right and wrong, and if there were any red flags. Maybe this will help someone else realize what is working for them or holding them back:
Girl 1: Jess
Girl 4: Erin
I've been reading a ton of books, articles, and posts to improve my game. Most are around Red Pill type of things, some are more generic self-help, and a few are even odd ball psychology books. My free time is now solely reading, going on dates, and working out.
After reading I decided that I should document my past 4 serious relationships and what went right and wrong, and if there were any red flags. Maybe this will help someone else realize what is working for them or holding them back:
Girl 1: Jess
- What worked: Frankly, I wasn't that attracted to her. It kept her always having to perform more and my indifference seemed to increase her love. I treated her very well, but I was unintentionally maintaining my masculinity.
- What didn't work: I dragged it on too long and I got in too deep. I eventually ended it, but I really upset her. I should have been more clear with her that it wasn't going anywhere.
- Red Flags: I was her first serious boyfriend. Other than that, nothing.
- What worked: She was the hottest girl I've been with. I was at the top of my game fitness-wise and confidence-wise.
- What didn't work: I let myself go. I got comfortable and put on weight, became a bit beta, and took the relationship for granted. All of that probably doesn't matter though, see below.
- Red Flags: She had a bf when we started hooking up. She had a coke habit that she hid from me. She maintained contact with her exs (often in secret). She had cheated on everyone she had ever dated (I thought I would be different - I wasn't). She was a super angry drunk.
- What worked: Initially I wasn't that attracted to her, which led to me maintaining masculinity (starting to see a trend?). That was crazy! She was gorgeous.
- What didn't work: Read receipts. Haha. Sometimes things are that simple and you have no idea. I left read receipts on my iMessage and didn't know it. I won't dive into it, but this caused a litany of problems.
- Red Flags: None really.
Girl 4: Erin
- What worked: Super hot, super fun 50% of the time. I started this off after going through a bunch of David Deangelo stuff and the beginning was great.
- What didn't work: I was way too available on text. I was always there to answer stuff, always available, always accommodating (I know better now...thanks Corey Wayne). I also failed a few sh!t tests.
- Red Flags: Showered me with love / praise way too early. Was a ton of fun / all over me one day, and would hate me the next (sometimes moments apart). In contact with multiple exs (admitted that she was still leading them on.) Her last relationship was with a married guy. She warned me early on that she used people as emotional airbags (I thought I would be different). Was super worried about me ghosting her (which I eventually did), even more so than breaking up. Had serious commitment issues. I overheard her telling her family how great I was, but she told me later that she never told them about me. Actively trying to meet other dudes online.