"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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Any of you guys know anything about the recruiting industry. Is it profitable for green people?

I got an offer for a Finance/Accounting recruiter. Base is just 45k plus commission. I told the guy last week I'd give him an answer this following week. I'm actually leaning towards saying no. Quitting my current job (not making real money) and working at Nissan (50 mins away from my current house) and stack up my money until I find a job that I actually would have a passion for. Recruiting job house is 8:30-5:30 M-F, Nissan hours is MTTHFS 8:30-7. My average gross at Nissan is 7.7k a month.

What advice do you guys have? I've been thinking about this decision for over two weeks and I still don't have a solid decision.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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I'm definitely leaning towards just going back to Nissan. I know Nissan like the back of my hand and the money will come quicker then if I do the recruiting job. The hours are hell but the money will be six figs any year. I should be retired by 40 if I play my cards right at the dealership.
 

The_flying_dutchman

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I would favor Nissan as well. Recruiter jobs are a two-faced, pride-swallowing profession where you have to make a bunch of empty promises to both the candidate and the client company. I've dealt with so many recruiters throughout my life and they're all the same-- when a client is interested in me as a candidate, the recruiters suddenly becomes my best friend. But when a client is not interested, the recruiters couldn't be bothered to talk to me.

These days, I've learned to play recruiters the same why they've played in the past. It's not a profession that I have much respect for but it's true that some recruiters can earn a substantial amount, but very few. The

I also think it's more of a woman's job because women are naturally more sociable and (perceived to be) less threatening than men.

At Nissan, you can make better connections and gain more technical skill.
 
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If you are making 92K a year at age 23, why are you even asking for advice. PrettyBoyAJ, it definitely seems like you have figured everything out!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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Yea you guys are right. When I went to Nissan I was making good money after the first month. I thought it would be easy making money doing anything. I was wrong. So as soon as I get the greenlight I'm going back to the dealership ASAP. Hours suck badly but I'll be retired by the time I'm 40 and I do have an MBA and BBA in Accounting if I ever want to slow down. But for now I gotta get my money up.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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So I had to make that decision and I chose the recruitment agency. The Long term for that job is better and really can't beat the guaranteed base. With Nissan even though I was on track to make 90k+ the base was 7.25 an higher and that was a draw. So it was way more stressful. The hour drive really isn't that bad but working 8-7 and working 80+ hours last week of the month isn't the business.

If I can build my client base up in this recruitment role I'd be making serious dough and not having to work too hard at all. Now I do plan to work hard but I just thinks this makes more sense for the next couple of years where I can stack money up and have time for other things in my life that I want to do.
 

Cerwin Vega

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You earn 7.7$K monthly? Wow, that's x3 the average income in my country. (and most of the things you buy here are double the price you pay in the US of A)
 

Colossus

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I've dealt with numerous medical recruiters. My buddy is a technical (IT) recruiter in New England. He does alright.

Personally I think recruiters are useful, but I put them in the same category as salesman or Realtors. They can be useful, but I don't trust them. They are your best friend when they need to fill positions, but they usually arent very forthcoming and the jobs they have aren't that great in some aspect (location mostly)---hence the need for a recruiter.
 
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