"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Recovering from a failed text solicitation for afternoon bang

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Here's a situation where the advice to (1) never apologize and (2) flip the script worked to salvage a plate today.

I work at home a few days a week. Today, I was lining up a date for this evening but this also got me thinking it would be fun to have a lunch time quicky with a chick I banged last week.

So, I text her: "You get a lunch break? You should come over"

Her (two hours later): "If all you want is sex, then you are looking in the wrong place"

Me (20 minutes later): "I guess I am going to have to eat my pan of lasagna by myself"

Her: (5 minutes later): Ha ha

Her: (2 hours later, hamster spinning): "If I made the wrong assumption, I apologize. Just seemed like the case"

Will ignore for a while. Of course all I'm interested in is sex with her. Not girlfriend material.

Anyway, hold frame, deflect, flip the script, etc. If you try a gambit with a text for sex and you do it vaguely/non-explicitly, if they call you on it, you can turn it around and keep her around for another bang.

Funny, it was bugging her for the last few hours. She had to send that last text to keep ME interested.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good example of turning things around. I did the same thing once, but mine was 'watch the hockey game' (our university team was playing).

As a tangent, I often use food as an excuse for her to come over.
 
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