There is one thing I'd recommend exploring that can help a lot of guys out, to make their lives meaningful, make their connections strong, and make their choices better.
It is a sage and very old advice, from one of the greatest leaders of all time. I think it is also not understood
It's up to you. - Marcus Aurelius
What I realized it meant for me, was that you are the one that you should ask, and who is responsible for your decision. So you might as well think it through.
Let's face it, most of the stuff in our heads is ingrained by other people. Look at how the standard of beauty has changed from even 60 years ago. Look at what is now "doing well" or "being a cool dude". How do you even define that...and most importantly, how do you define it for YOU? Because, it is up to you, to decide what you think those things will mean in YOUR life.
A very simple personal example. I had stuck so deep in my head the idea that I should be banging just hot girls, that I've turned so many down, instead spending time with the rosie palm, because at that time, it was my thinking that I was doing the right thing for me.
It was not until I saw a girl with a thicker body that I stopped the default thinking, and considered - if it is up to me, and only I decide what I want here, would I sleep with her? And I surprised myself by answering "yeah, I think so!"
Well, since it is up to you - YOU CAN. And it is up to you to decide if what your friend, or may be your own voice in your head might say - it is up to you to decide if that should bother you.
Ask yourself questions, do I really want to be in a relationship? Do I bring enough to the table to be in one? Would I like to be doing something else with my career? Is there another place I would like to move?
It is up to you. You are always making the choice. Not choosing is a choice, so you might as well take the responsibility and ENJOY the power of living your life through your choices.
Fingz said it best - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=138896&highlight=priorities
It is a sage and very old advice, from one of the greatest leaders of all time. I think it is also not understood
It's up to you. - Marcus Aurelius
What I realized it meant for me, was that you are the one that you should ask, and who is responsible for your decision. So you might as well think it through.
Let's face it, most of the stuff in our heads is ingrained by other people. Look at how the standard of beauty has changed from even 60 years ago. Look at what is now "doing well" or "being a cool dude". How do you even define that...and most importantly, how do you define it for YOU? Because, it is up to you, to decide what you think those things will mean in YOUR life.
A very simple personal example. I had stuck so deep in my head the idea that I should be banging just hot girls, that I've turned so many down, instead spending time with the rosie palm, because at that time, it was my thinking that I was doing the right thing for me.
It was not until I saw a girl with a thicker body that I stopped the default thinking, and considered - if it is up to me, and only I decide what I want here, would I sleep with her? And I surprised myself by answering "yeah, I think so!"
Well, since it is up to you - YOU CAN. And it is up to you to decide if what your friend, or may be your own voice in your head might say - it is up to you to decide if that should bother you.
Ask yourself questions, do I really want to be in a relationship? Do I bring enough to the table to be in one? Would I like to be doing something else with my career? Is there another place I would like to move?
It is up to you. You are always making the choice. Not choosing is a choice, so you might as well take the responsibility and ENJOY the power of living your life through your choices.
Fingz said it best - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=138896&highlight=priorities
