receiving mixed signals

[chocococonut]

How do u deal with mixed signals? i am player, but really into this one girl (GIRL A) i met. i still maintain relationship with one of my f-buddies, but i really like GIRL A.

GIRL A just got outta serious 3 yr relationship and doesn't want anything serious. i say okay lets just casually "get together". it happens. i start developing feels for this girl. she kinda reciprocates, but has strong emotional instability due to her coming out of a relationship.

i find out she had made plans to hang out with her ex. i take it personally as disrespectful and as a result, i call her out on it and say we should stop and just be friends. immediately she tells me she didn't actually meet up with him. i stay stubborn and say , lets just be friends. after, she called me, we talked about our situation. she agrees we can be friends and "rekindle the flame at a later time when we're both ready for commitment"

no contact begins. have not heard from her yet, but i guarantee she will come back.

some reasons why i stopped:
receiving mixed signals
emotionally unavailable ( from both parties )
doing stuff behind my back
developed too much feels

how would you have handled this? What should be the next step?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Girl says "I don't want anything serious" = not a mixed signal. She's not interested in a relationship with you.

Girl says "I'm hanging out with my ex" = not a mixed signal. She's hanging with him and blowing you off because she still likes her ex.

She says you two can "rekindle the flame at a later time when we're both ready for commitment" = not a mixed signal. She's passively letting you know she doesn't want to get with you. The "not ready for commitment" thing is not accurate - she was just committed to her ex, who she's still trying to be committed to.

As nismo-4 would say, your princess is in another castle. As for how I would have handled it, I would have recognized the situation for what it was - a girl that's not interested - and moved on to someone else. No sense in wasting time on a girl that's CLEARLY not trying to get with you.

 

[rascal99v]

mixed signals always means bad news. i agree with Harry that she is with the ex because she is hanging out with him but not with you.

 

[VladPatton]

No mixed signals = no problem
Mixed signals + excuses = 0 chance

Time to let her be and move on, bud.

 

[nismo-4]

One of Judge nismo's common ass cases that I've long addressed. I'm disappointed yet again.[/FONT]

Mixed signals are never good for men. It means very little to no interest! Your princess doesn't want you knowing that she's in another castle, but damn, even Stevie Wonder could see that your princess is in another castle. Just accept this and move the f**k on. Unless you're happy with being a beta orbiter who likes being teased.

She'll come back if either:
1. The ex pumps and dumps her again.
2. She wants attention from you.
3. You become a multimillionaire.

Don't let her.

Case closed. Get out of my court.