"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Reading the Signs

Cloud-uk

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To get straight to the point I need some advice when it comes to reading buying signals.

When I'm macking I usually find I can read a girl's signals pretty well, but only in certain cases. If the girl is obviously usually shy, or what you may call a "cute girl", I find the signals much easier to interpret, because if there's the touching, eye contact and general "yeah! let's get it on!" vibe from her, it's more pronounced because she is a more reserved personality.

This has lead me to date a lot of "cute girls", shy girls, and givers. Which has been great but often they just aren't as fun as I want them to be. Bit of a shame but that's life.

However, the problem is that with girls who are far more bouncy and exciting I still find it difficult to distinguish "I'm into you" talk and action from "I'm just bouncy" talk and action. Any advice?

Oh yeah,a nd any good posts about interpreting signals that you'd reccomend?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If eye contact is good and her body posture isn't turned away, she tries to respect you.

If her eye contact isn't good and her body posture is turned away, she doesn't respect you.

Simple?

You're 17 too, you're dating girls who haven't become knowledgeable about themselves yet.
 

Cloud-uk

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Mmm fair point.

Note to self: Start dating 40 year olds.
 

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Yeah, I know what you mean.

Sometimes I can still read the bouncy girls vibes, they just look at you differently than the other guys and will make little comments (like try and get you to do something for them). I usually do it, and in return make them do something for me! Dont just tell them no becasue you think they are using you!

Anyways, sorry for that sidetrack, one very important thing about these girls (of which I am dating one at the moment), they usually have other guys on the go as well, this has to genuinely not bother you. However, the most important thing is to ASSUME THE SALE! Assume they are interested in you, and go from there! I would have missed out on a whole lot of girls over the past few months if I didnt assume the sale, cause the vibes I was getting were mixed. This is when its time to assert your manhood upon them!

Good luck and get out there and take control!
 

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Originally posted by Skullcrusher
If eye contact is good and her body posture isn't turned away, she tries to respect you.

If her eye contact isn't good and her body posture is turned away, she doesn't respect you.

Simple?

You're 17 too, you're dating girls who haven't become knowledgeable about themselves yet.
Textbook textbook textbook! I have had girls with AWESOME body posture, right infront of me, nearly touching nose to nose, and their body all over me, a while back I got barred by a girl like this! 2 weeks ago I had one who had aweful body posture, would look at me, but her body was pointing the other way! I thought, meh, next. But once again, I assumed she was interested, and since have slept with her 3 times and dated her 5.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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