"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ok guys here the deal. i have a gf but there is this girl at work that i like. she hotttt. anyway iasked her out to lunch today n everything went well. i did everything prperly. we went shopping n she tried on dresses n she showed me. damn she look hot in those dresses. on our way to the car i took her hand n went in for the kiss, she pulled back n asked what i was doing. i was quite surprised n not sur what to do n she asked me are we going to leave. i then said yes n got in the car acted like it didnt happen. we talked fine n still laughed. now my question is i feel kinda bad n the fact that i work with her makes it difficult. do i apologise to her cos i dont want to mess with our working relationship. i know i read her signals wrong. i need help, how can i fix this
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do not apologize!!! You did nothing wrong to her. You must not have escalated right, or didnt generate enough attraction, but at least you went for it, so good job there. You should have played it cooler when she asked you what you were doing.

Oh, I just read the part about your GF. That could be why she rejected you. She may have went out with you cuz she figured it was safe, since you are taken. If she's been cheated on, you might have just reminded her about it. Of course, a lot of girls will react oppositely, so whatever. Just hope she doesnt tell your gf.
 
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i dont think she will tell my gf.
so when i see her on thursday then do u think that i should just carry on normal with her
 
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You went AFC after she rejected you. Just by how you wrote this and how she was clueless about a kiss being part of the deal, I question what your frame of mind is and how you dealt with the situation as a whole.
 
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i went clueless. i think she knew what was happenin. im just not sure how to handle the situation wen i see her. i dont wana phone or txt her
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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bluemanson said:
ok guys here the deal. i have a gf but there is this girl at work that i like. she hotttt. anyway iasked her out to lunch today n everything went well. i did everything prperly. we went shopping n she tried on dresses n she showed me. damn she look hot in those dresses. on our way to the car i took her hand n went in for the kiss, she pulled back n asked what i was doing. i was quite surprised n not sur what to do n she asked me are we going to leave. i then said yes n got in the car acted like it didnt happen. we talked fine n still laughed. now my question is i feel kinda bad n the fact that i work with her makes it difficult. do i apologise to her cos i dont want to mess with our working relationship. i know i read her signals wrong. i need help, how can i fix this
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Your girlfriend is lucky to have you. You want to stick your tongue down another girls throat because she's hot without your girlfriend knowing, and you're worried about your working relationship with her? I'd be more worried about where your principles lie.

If your girlfriend posed the same question to us about a guy she was working with and she thought was hot and wanted to ram her tongue down his throat, what would you want us to say?
 
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my principles are fine. it not like im getting married and i do not think i would marry my girlfriend.
Im still trying to find the right girl and this girl is hot, and when i say hot i mean like Vanessa hudgens hot, she smart, knows what she wants and i will prob choose her if things would work out.

maybe i dont know her properly yet but i do want to get to know her and that maybe she cud be the girl
 
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If you do not think you are going to marry your girlfriend why are you with her? You're wasting your time and hers.

And you think this girl could be the girl? There is no such thing as "THE girl".

Kind of side tracking here, but there are 6 billion people in the world. If "the one" existed it means you'd have an microscopic chance of finding them, yet a very high percent claim to have found them at one point in their life. Unlikely.

And no your principles are not fine. If you want random hook ups or want to see different people, drop the girlfriend.
 
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you right i am wasting her time but im sure there are other guys that do way much worse then what i did or do but
all im asking is for alittle help not critism.
 
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