"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rafc needs some thoughts

saber

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First off, this board is great and hopefully all this stuff works. Recovering afc and need some advice.

I met hb10 about two years ago when my parents moved to a new city. I could have easily scored but she realized I was an afc and strung me out. We became friends (i had no other options) and were both hooking up with other people. Eventually I *****ed at her and we stoped talking.

Long story short is she wants to hang out and I know hanging out with here will lead to hooking up with her friends other very hot babes. She thinks she will still be able to play me.

I moved about 1/2 hour away for a new job and meet very few girls-Ive tryed sarging and will be doing lots more.

Since I am a rafc should I avoid her until I get my **** together? I don't want that bs again...any opinions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do what you want to do. You said if you two started hanging out, you'd hook up with her friends?

And that's a problem how?
 

saber

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I guess so
Im just curious if it's reasonable to hang out to meet new chicks through her or if it's oneitis <-spelling?

I will just have to be carefull/a big jerk
 

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I think you've got what I call rAFC Syndrome (I have it occasionally). You've just been absorbing the lessons of the DJ way, and you are now determined to never revert to AFCishness again. But in the process, you run the risk of acting like an AFC---I mean, passing up what you describe as a good shot at pulling hot chicks just because you don't want to maybe fit the description of something you read on the Internet---that's AFC behavior.
 
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