Race or Background Have an Impact?

"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Luveno

Master Don Juan

Aug 9, 2005

Who you are matters when you play the game. If you have game, the you'll do fine with reasonable people.

What race you are matters to small minded bigots. No matter what you do, these morons will generalize you. But it is not your problem, it is theirs.

Of course, if racist bigots are making your life difficult, you one-up them and make theirs hell to live.

So, race does matter to some people, but those people are better off not associating with anyone of worth anyhow.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.